ive just started dating a guy after years without a physical relationship, and feel like a teenager - im not so worried about the actual sex part (though we havent had any yet) but i feel really shy about touching his willy and cant remember 'how to do it', silly as it sounds....i know that everyone is going to prefer slightly different things but, in general, do most men prefer kind of tender touching or something a bit firmer.? and what do you do..just move your hand up and down.? i feel ridiculous for asking but anyway.....