any rules about becoming infatuated with a friend's flatmate?

[MitchierInge]

am confident it is a 2 way attraction

friend not best pleased

what would you do?

Why isn't your friend pleased? Have they been friends with their flatmate for a while too, or is it someone they've recently moved in with?

Is the friend worried that if it were to go wrong, it could become pretty difficult for her home life?

I think a few things - initially she was interested in him for herself (surprised me, she has never said so before), she does have a thing (maybe lots of people do) a sort of insecurity about introducing people who might hit it off amd go off and be better friends with one another than with her and yes it is a new arrangement and she finds it all a bit stressful (having own flat)

so I suppose is selfish to add to that

am not going to run away with him, it got quite intense quite quickly and will probably fizzle out equally fast

REALLY severe crush on him for time being though

Take your time. You and this chap are both adults.

good-oh, green light from friend and a date lined up

excited :)

at least this one won't just move in to my house and isn't a shotgun wielding knife carrying neo-Nazi coke enthusiast

why am I such a FREAK

Date not go well?

Or did it go too well?

he is quite disturbing

why can't I attract someone nice? Or wouldn't I be attracted to them then?

:(

Disturbing in what way?

You didn't find a rape video on his PC did you?

creepy creepy weirdo

never mind

is not me that has to live with Fred West now

Did you speak to your friend about it? She could be in danger even now if he is as bad as you say!

I'd never agree to live with a man on my own - the dangers are just too great

I have spoken to her about it, it's just disturbing fantasy stuff in his head mainly - I think

who knows? human sexuality is murky isn't it

He told you about disturbing fantasy stuff on a first date?

That is odd, and very murky

not even on a date, over the phone while he was wanking

!

("o)

You let him do that with you before you even dated him?!

Oh FFS,
WTF is wrong with him... jesus christ... what a freak! HIM btw! HIM!

this is not you MI, this is him.

BUT, you need to see if there are tosser signs you are missing here, take a step back.

You need to hang up when stuff like that starts. he has no right to do that to you when you don't even know him.

It is just typical online stuff.....means nothing! If we start to look for "Tosser Signs" surely the whole male race will be guilty?!

well I quite liked some of it at first - how do you know it's 'typical online stuff' clickety?

but I'm his flatmate's best friend, it's not the 'getting to know her' behaviour she expected when she gave him my number. Perhaps if I had met him online?

I'm sorry, but typical online behaviour to wank off when you are not even technically involved?

F*ck me the entire Human Race will die out if this is the flaming Gene Pool of the future!

No wonder this eejit is single Mitchy. You are worth more than that love.

thank you!

still wondering how online behaviour comes into it?

(like him a BIT despite that or because of it but am mostly being good)

Oh dear. I'd clicked on this thread to tell you that I'd once been extremely infatuated with a friend's flatmate... but no, he didn't wank whilst on the phone to me (well, not to my knowledge, at least).

Have you told your friend?

Wanking on the phone is probably ok, if you're both happy with it. But it sounds like you're really not. So how did it, er, come about?

Oooohhh, have you considered auditioning to be the next BT couple for their new advertising campaign? :o

I didn't mind the wank so much at all, was having a not too stealthy one myself, it is his actual personality and the talk of doing a poo on his ex that was off-putting. And he likes salad cream!