Please please please help, CAFCASS :(

[babyhammock]

Has anyone had a really bad experience with CAFCASS and what happened? Was it ok in the end? Did the court actually end up looking at any of the actual evidence, witness statements, anything aside from the CAFCASS report?

Rmb I hope it all works out ok for you and your dd as I can see you are very worried by it all.

Well this CAFCASS is worth as i have noticed it in several cases.
www.stubbslaw.com.au

I am a woman who has been through DV, the violence started when I got pregnant. Ex was obsessed with my body image at a tiny size 4, he demanded I have an abortion to which I refused given that we were married for two years . I went on to have the baby and he made it clear that that I’ll be solely responsible for the child’s physical and emotional and financial needs. I was young at the time and accepted this, when I fell pregnant the second time he beat the pregnancy out of me; I lost the baby.. By this time I was suffering from depression and seemed help in the form of therapy. A year later I fell pregnant again and this time The beating sent me into preterm labour at 26 weeks gestation, I still went back to him after he begged for forgiveness. I eventually left him for good when the second child was 3 months old, I finally plucked up the courage to report incidents to police when he started threatNing me for leaving him. I became children’s primary carer for the past three years but allowed him to have children for weekends and holidays.
A year ago he had asked my permission to receive benefits in the name of one of the children for housing benefit purpose as he couldn’t afford his rent, I felt sorry for him but my family warned me not to trust him so I refused. After this I received several calls from police and social services about alleged numerous abuses towards children made by my ex and non was followed through. He was building a case against me by using my depression.
Four months ago after taking the children for the weekend he refused to bring them back at the agreed time, he text to say “see you in court” after I called to ask why he was taking long to bring them back. At the first court hearing he made so much allegations that the judge asked me to prove my mental health and other issues whilst banning me any contact, second hearing judge didn’t read any of our statements, ex didn’t have evidence but I had over 50 of them but I was self representing myself and his barrister got more chances to talk. He had claimed children were scared of me and not wanting to talk or see me, judge took their every word for gospel and ordered supervised visits. His solicitor dragged her feet to issue the order judge ask them to write up and ended up waiting a month until next hearing when another judge ordered supervised visits again and it took two months from previous hearing before I finally got contact.
Supervised visits went great as his claims were refuted, now Cafcass have written a section 7 report that acknowledged him to be a high risk dv perpetrator, recommends he takes a course to reflect on his behaviour but also recommends that children stay with him as they have been through a lot and any change could affect their education and emotional wellbeing, and oh oldest child at 7 expressed in her wishes and feelings interview that she wants to be back with me, youngest is only 3 so she was not interviewed. Now final hearing to take place next week.
My ex has used the courts to get these results and courts allowed him to continue the abuse, so for all you guys blaming women and saying court treats women claiming false dv highly. WRONG…
The family court can be biased on both sides. I can’t think why they acknowledge his violence and abuse but yet favoured him.
1: is it because I was self represented?
2: is it because am black and he’s white (hate to use the race card) but I imagine had he been black this wouldn’t have turn out this way.
3: is he paying these court officials
The only reason why they were forced to acknowledge his abuse was because there were mountains of evidences I presented but even that was not enough to stop the abuse that is still taking place in the courts.
PS: I am so confused with the family court system, please help me understand…!

Ishapp2

Maybe start a new thread over in legal or chat as this thread is 5 years old.

Tiny bit of advice, I wouldn't say out loud in a court setting reasons 2 or 3 as I can't imagine that sitting well at all.

I was talking to someone about all this and we both think whoever kicks up the most fuss and is the most aggressive gets away with the most on the basis that it is easiest for the court.

she compared it to when you watched those police fly on the wall things. you see people doing completely crazy stuff and no action is taken. You speed 33MPH in 30 zone and get a ticket!!

So many horrendous things on here all these poor children and i just cannot understand why the court rule is that kids do better with these arsehole parents and that they only need to 'be good enough' it isn't good enough!!

Thanks for your replies, I am hoping that the contact centre supervisors evidence about her concerns for children's emotional wellbeing not being met during the intrem would turn the Cafcass report over, because Cafcass claims father is meeting their emotional wellbeing but dd is saying that when she wants to speak to me on the phone daddy says no and these have been recorded in contact centre report. Also Cafcass lied so much and got so many things wrong that my solicitor I just hired told me not to give her any hints that the things she lied about are documented and wait for the cross examination. She totally went with everything dad alleged as gospel and put it as evidence not knowing there's paper work from other professionals.

www.ombudsman.org.uk/about-us/corporate-information/freedom-information-disclosure-log/investigations-relating-cafcass

Hi, can you advise who/what the OMBUDSMAN process entails as I would like my case reviewed by them. Had to laugh when OFSTED gave them full marks for there work - absolute idiots in my opinion.
Am fighting an uphill struggle and need all the hell I can get.

longlostdad maybe best to start your own thread as this is 6 years old.