Could you manage without your man?

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Was talking to my friend the other day who's having a few prob.s with her DH and she's realised that if she slings him out she'll be just fine. Got me thinking... Could I get by without DH?

I love DH and wouldn't want to be without him but if anything crap happened, like me finding him with a younger prettier model (neither of which would be too tricky), and I kicked him out, how would I manage.

Answer - easily. Can earn own money (more than he does), better at managing home and kids, and lack of sex doesn't really bother me that much either. So, good job I love him eh?

I asked him if he could manage without me, he said no and listed the above reasons. Apparently makes him feel a bit inferior , that he needs me, but I don't need him. He doesn't realise that I do need him - he's my soul mate.

So, could you get by without your other half?

I was a single mum before meeting dh so I know I would cope although now i'd have 2ds's to look after. I know i'd be ok though. I would be more concerned about how my boys would cope esp ds1 who has already dealt with losing 1 dad.

Yes!

No way!!!

Have 4 year old twins and one has SN and is hard work (more than hard work)

He is very supportive (still v annoying also )

I am ashamed to say I would never cope on my own and would probably end up having a nervous breakdown!

Yes.

Prefer it when he was here (love his company) but he was away for a year and I managed just fine.

He works very long hours and shifts and I often feel the house runs better whne he isn't here actually...

never in a month of sundays. he's fab.

Agree with Rickman and Bugsy.

Am astonished (and not a little envious, perhaps?) by some of the replies here. Never have - and don't think I ever could - feel that strongly about a man. Can't imagine any bloke being 'my world'...

I suppose it depends a lot on circumstances do you think?

If I was like my friend who has one very well behaved little girl, then yes, I would like to think I could cope

maybe im a dependant person - im not happy on my own... even when DH is away with work, i go to my Dads - i cant bear to be on my own - it probably makes me a sad pathetic excuse for a woman, but my DH is my world and i couldnt be without him.

Yes and am planning to. In fact my P causes me more hassle than actually helping out!

Don't be offended, JARM, lucky you!

Just can't imagine it, really

Probably but I wouldn't want to have to be alone without him.

Yes JARM, lucky you!!!!

That was very sweet what you put!!!

I am very fortunate with my DH, he does a lot (and puts up with a lot from a grumpy old me!!!)

and although there are many many faults as I said earlier, I couldn't do without him (mind you, didn't say I wanted him lol lol, just that I couldn't cope without him )

For me, I think it would depend on the circumstances, and I'm considering my life as it stands now.

If I felt I needed to leave the relationship, then I would be ok.

If he left the relationship, I'd be devastated, but ultimately would be ok too.

If he died, I hope I would have the reserves to cope, but I worry that I would not, as my only other experience of bereavement of someone very close to me was horrendous and very nearly broke me.

I could manage without him, but on balance I would prefer not to.

The kids certainly couldn't manage without him - they adore and revere him [sick - making emoticon]

Of course, but I wouldn't want to. If he died it would be terrible but we would all get through it together. If he upped sticks and went it would be worse, because the children wouldn't understand and he is a fantastic father who is very very close to them, and also presumably there would be money fights as well which would be stressful and depressing (whereas if he died we'd be sorted by excessive insurance!).
!Eurghghghgh, what a depressing thread!

I was in the "he is the rock at my side" camp until I found out that he had had an affair and was actively planning life without me. Can cope practically and finacially without him pretty easily, as I have been the main breadwinner for several years now (in fact he has been a major liability). We are now seperated and whilst I always hope that he will come home, in some ways life is much easier without the stress he brings.

Think it depends on the circumstances of being on your own.

If the relationship broke down irretriviably (sp?) with loads of arguing and fighting then I would find a resolve from somehwere and draw strength from hating him.

If he died suddenly, then I think I would fall apart and it would knock me for six. This I think I would find much harder to cope with as I presume we are happy and not want to be apart, and him dying would make the bottom fall out of my world.

Did that make sense? I know what I mean but not sure if it has come across quite how I wanted it to....?

could i manage - yes
do i want to - no

ditto koala

Financially I would get by, I try not to worry too much about money. Health is more important to me.

DP is my soulmate too, we've come through so much together and he's the person I spend the most time with and I prefer to be in his company rather than anyone else's, he's my best friend and he tells me I am his - we have massive arguments and fall out but never ever split up, we usually sort things out within a day as we can't bear not to talk to each other for that long.

He's a great father too and would be lost without the three of us too.

I too worry something dreadful will happen to him all the time, I hate it when he's late home and he had a health problem not long ago which scared the shit out of me .

To summarise - definitely would not cope, he's my other half.