Can't figure my in laws out

[iluvsummer]

They do absolutely nothing with my ds at all and I mean nothing they dont even pick up the phone to see how he is YET they do everything for their other gs (my dps other child).

I have been home a week now after having an ectopic and there has been not one offer of help from them in any shape or form however they have taken their other gs to school and picked him up every day and they've had him staying over too bearing in mind his mother doesn't work.

God I'm so full of resentment towards them at the moment it's unbelievable I just need to let it go don't I :(

No they don't bother with my little one hence the reason for the thread but I don't bother going up there anymore and when dp goes up I keep little one with me at home.

Dp knows my take on it and how pathetic I think they all are re the ss situation and I have made my feelings about how he is enabling the situation quite clear but I've said my piece to him and am leaving it at that as the saying goes reap what you sow and I know what the end product is going to be as ive seen it so many times in my line of work

Sorry, got well off track.

I agree with others who have said that your son is better off having no contact with them as they seem to have no ideas of relationships/boundaries.

Sad that he doesn´t get a chance at a relationship with his brother, though, and sad for your stepson also-and that he isn´t, by all accounts being brought up by either parent.

I agree it is sad in all respects but also I have to think about ss influence on my little one, put it like this he has an excellent grasp of ye olde English language and is very nasty to his 2 year old cousin both physically and verbally and I'm not really prepared to expose my child to that behaviour and environment :(

"I´m not really prepared to expose my child to that behaviour and environment"

To be fair, it´s not the boy´s fault that he is being brought up unnecessarily by his GPs.

Wonder how he feels seeing his brother living with it´s own mother & father whilst he, seemingly lives with neither!

Well that is a situation which is not of my one making in an ideal world children would be with their parents but in this screwed up situation it isn't! I have bent over backwards to find a solution and accommodate them but I've had it thrown back in my face and sniggered at by his parents so im leaving them to it from now on. Ss behaviour is a result of his upbringing, not his fault by a long shot but as a mother it is my ultimate responsibility that my son is not exposed to this behaviour if it can be helped and in this situation it can be avoided! How he feels at seeing his father with another baby and a girlfriend is not my responsibility it the responsibility of his father, mother and gps, I have done all I can to help them in this situation but I cannot do any more emotionally or mentally :(

It is his father´s responsibility, but I don´t know how you can happily be a family, knowing that this boy should also be a part of it tbh.

I dont know either but there's only so much I can do!

If I were you, I would not feel sorry about your own children's lack of attention from their paternal grandparents. Its your SS who you should feel sorry for. He gets no attention from either of his parents and gets wacko ILs as parents.