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Online dating!! what does this mean??

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LickItUp · 15/01/2012 12:20

Got talking to a guy this morning, had a lovely chat, seemed to be getting on great and then he said something about me meeting his dog if liked him enough (it was in context) and I responded to the rest of the message but not that bit. I asked him how his weekend had been instead. He answered that and then said "well I'll leave you to go and find your soul mate x"

So has he took the fact that I didn't reply to meeting as a sign that I don't like him or has he suddenly decided that he doesn't like me? I want to keep talking to him but don't want to chase if he isn't interested

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rubyblues · 15/01/2012 12:24

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BunnyLebowski · 15/01/2012 12:27

Sounds to me like he thinks you're not interested based on you not acknowledging or responding to his (piss poor) offer of a meet.

Also sounds to me like he's a passive aggressive whinger so I'd leave it at that and move on if I were you!

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LickItUp · 15/01/2012 12:29

Oh well he's turned into a bit of a nut. I responded asking if he'd like to chat later and he responded with "never met such ignorent people, where are the manners??"

wtf?

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BunnyLebowski · 15/01/2012 12:30

Eurgh. Ignore and block if possible.

He sounds whackadoo.

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LickItUp · 15/01/2012 12:30

Oh I responded saying "are you referring to me?" and he's just replied saying "that would be nice if havn't made you mad :( thank you"
???? sounds a bit loco yeah? Sad

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HedleyLamarr · 15/01/2012 12:31

He sounds like an arse. Move on to your next victim potential date. And have a look here for some help.

starsintheireyes · 15/01/2012 12:32

Run! lol

catsareevil · 15/01/2012 12:32

He's a keeper. HmmGrin

passionsrunhigh · 15/01/2012 12:32

eh? ignorant of what (does he know the meaning of the word? ignorant is not 'having bad manners' online dating sucks!

BearWith · 15/01/2012 12:32

He sounds bonkers!!! RUN!

Rosemallow · 15/01/2012 12:33

It means he's a twat.
Probably wanted you to chase after him asking 'what's wrong, what did I say?'etc.
Imagine that in a relationship - lucky escape!

lubeybooby · 15/01/2012 12:34

Muchas locas. Leg it!

SarahStratton · 15/01/2012 12:56

I'm starting to like it when they show their true loco colours so early on.

Saves time.

NewPatchesForOld · 15/01/2012 13:05

Me too, the ones who email you and then if you haven't replied within 2 minutes email again saying 'I see you've looked at my profile, thanks for nothing', and then when you don't respond to that (because they sound like complete weirdos) they email again calling you rude and stand offish, and even worse...a lesbian?!?! WTF? Imagine if these men actually knew where you lived.

jaffacake2 · 15/01/2012 13:06

Messages apparently can have different meanings to some people online dating sites.
I suggested meeting for a coffee to a guy I had been talking to and added "if we get on then coffee and cake" His reply "Is this a swingers code?"
No its a cake!!!
Didnt meet up as too weird.

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LickItUp · 15/01/2012 13:07

It's scarey that there are so many psycos out there.

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LickItUp · 15/01/2012 13:11

Yeah Jaffa I have noticed some people really take messages the wrong way. I was talking to a guy yesterday and asked if he had much planned for the weekend. He said "nah I'm working unfortunately" so i simply replied "ah right" and he went off saying "why did you say that??? what did you mean by that?? why did you say it like that??" etc Shock said "like what??" and he said "why did you sigh like that??" Confused

Another one said something slightly cheeky (I took it in good humour) and replied "haha :P" and he responded with "oooo touche! what's up?" ???

God this is hard work.

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perceptionreality · 15/01/2012 13:11

Internet dating is full of pathetic losers people who have spent so much time doing it that they lose sight of what is a sensible way to behave and get really insecure and desperate and yes, passive aggressive. I really hope I don't offend someone in saying this but I met so many people who seemed to have issues upon issues when I did it.

I am sure there are some nice normal people out there but you have to sift through to find them. And don't use Plenty Of Fish!

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LickItUp · 15/01/2012 13:16

Is plentyoffish known for being loserville then? that's where these treasures have come from Sad

Only been on there 4 days and am already starting to think it's not worth the hassle.

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 15/01/2012 13:20

can i ask how long you guys spend chatting to men on POF. I mean, what is a polite length of time to have a conversation for. Just wondered what everyone else was doing

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LickItUp · 15/01/2012 13:23

I usually log on around 8.30pm and one guy I speak to messages me back and forth until about 11ish (short messages). Another guy sends me a chat request around 9.30pm and we chat until 11ish too. Not sure what the norm is though, they all tend to get bored of me after a while so perhaps I'm doing it wrong lol

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 15/01/2012 13:27

Holy Cow, what do you find to talk about for that length of time!!!!!

I usually go onto the private chat thingy for 10 or 15 minutes and always make sure i'm the first to end the conversation. But now i'm thinking maybe i should talk for longer.

Nah fuck it, always leave em wanting more thats my new years motto Grin

perceptionreality · 15/01/2012 13:30

The problem with POF is that it's free so it's full of sharks and strange people.

I've seen it said on here that you are better off using a site like My Single Friend.

Punkatheart · 15/01/2012 13:35

My poor lovely mum had a date with a man who then emailed her to say that she was short and not intelligent enough (simply because he had told her his make of car and she forgot and struggled to find him) She was really upset and so I wrote him a nice email - explaining that my mother preferred men who were considerate and didn't wear jumpers with holes in them and boast that they could live on a couple of pounds a day. Oh yes, there are some keepers out there - but OP, he does sound deranged. You would have better luck dating his dog!

FabbyChic · 15/01/2012 17:07

Ive private chat turned off.

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