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Online dating!! what does this mean??

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LickItUp · 15/01/2012 12:20

Got talking to a guy this morning, had a lovely chat, seemed to be getting on great and then he said something about me meeting his dog if liked him enough (it was in context) and I responded to the rest of the message but not that bit. I asked him how his weekend had been instead. He answered that and then said "well I'll leave you to go and find your soul mate x"

So has he took the fact that I didn't reply to meeting as a sign that I don't like him or has he suddenly decided that he doesn't like me? I want to keep talking to him but don't want to chase if he isn't interested

OP posts:

piratecat · 15/01/2012 17:10

honestly, move on.

prick.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 15/01/2012 17:14

First message just sounded a bit insecure to me, the rest sound bonkers. Next!

izzywhizzyswinterwarmer · 15/01/2012 17:30

Sounds as if he's taken 'love me, love my dog' to extremes

You're surely not logging on every night at 8.30pm LickItUp? Aren't you off out enoying yourself at least a few evenings every week - or at least giving the impression of having some kind of social life outside of messaging?

AKissIsNotAContract · 15/01/2012 17:32

Are you sure the dog comment was innocent? Sounds dodgy to me but perhaps I'm just a cynic who encountered too many perves when I did online dating.

I met my fiancé on plenty of fish though so there are some good ones. You just have to sift through the shit to find them.

Louplet · 15/01/2012 18:46

I met DH on match.com. He is lovely . There were a few nutters but I also dated a few really nice guys and the nutters make for good anecdote material . Don't give up!

LollyBobs · 15/01/2012 19:59

I met my OH on Plenty of Fish and it worked out fabulously, we're living in bliss together now. I had my account as hidden so that I didn't get messages off guys as it used to drive me crazy filtering through messages. I would message the ones I liked and then chat to those who replied.

My friend met his OH on My Single Friend and they have just bought their 1st house together :)

The only one I found terrible and a big waste of money was eHarmony. Hardly any guys on there and the only guy I met for a coffee was totally insane!

ohdearwhatdoidonow · 16/01/2012 07:40

I did years on and off of internet dating - and I took his message as a dogging invite lol.

THAT is how they get you!!!!! Make you as daft as they are;)

izzywhizzyswinterwarmer · 16/01/2012 14:13

ROFL 'dogging' - cynical, vous odwdidn?

ohdearwhatdoidonow · 16/01/2012 17:27

LOL I was - very! but met my OH online, and we're married now:) Had to kiss too many frogs on the way.....

Pippa5l · 17/01/2012 12:19

To add my pennys worth - Not sure if I have had success yet. I started talking to a guy in October, we met up three times, always at lunch and tea times, then finally we went to a gig/club on Friday night and had a great time. He had bought the tickets, came to pick me up, he was very affectionate, protective and basically lovely. We even had the relationship chat in the car on the way home. The problem is he has never tried anything, all we ve done is a peck on the lips twice. Now my problem is Im not sure if Ive so far given off the cold signals though I did try to be affectionate on Friday or if he s just not that into me?? We texted late into the nights over the weekend and he wants to see me again, but in what capacity? As a mate (hes very touchy feely) or as a potential girlfriend. Do I bring this up/approach it or do I just wait to see him again though he s not rushing to see me, its seems to be every couple of weeks. Cant read this one. Any ideas??

Pippa5l · 17/01/2012 14:08

To add insult to injury, I texted him earlier to ask him if he wanted to go to a comedy club on Sunday, someone at work has some voucher tickets. No reply ! OOh I hate this dating malarky !

Louplet · 17/01/2012 19:26

Pippa5l you are overthinking it. You have only had one evening date. Maybe he is being a gentleman and not trying to rush things. I gather around the third evening date is the earliest polite time to make a move. My DH was the same. He was being a gentleman because he liked me. In the end I grabbed him and gave him a great big kiss and that was that!

He may have been at work non contactable or out of battery. No need to analyse everything. Men don't and you will risk coming over as needy and desperate. Give it a few more dates and relax. Enjoy his company and just see where it takes you.

JoAlone · 19/01/2012 18:02

I have just started this dating malarky too. On POF, am not sure if others get lots of interest, I have had hardly any. What is the normal? I did meet one guy, he lives nearby, had a few meet ups, coffee, drink - pizza and a boardgame afterward, he took me to dinner, and last time was this Friday, he came round for dinner, things were going very well I thought, and now, nothing..... It is so confusing. My friend pointed me in the direction of 'the rules' its a book on dating rules. According to it, I should never have txt him as much, so I think I might give those a bit of a try, that is if anyone ever contacts me....

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