Major row with best mate

[LovelyLizzie]

Not sure if relationships is the right place for this but it can be moved if need be.
Best mate phones me up tonight all upset. The story is thus:
She's been dating a bloke in his twenties for the last six months (she's 38). tonight both her and her DS of four come down with major tummy bug. She phones DS's father but he's out of the country and can't help. She doesn't really have any close friends of family where she lives so in desperation she calls the boyf.
Boyf comes over, puts her to bed with a bowl and some water. A short time later she gets up and goes to the bathroom where DS is standing in a shallow bath and boyf is rubbing his bum crack.
She goes nuclear. Boyf says he had an accident and he didn't want to bother her as she is so sick. OK bit silly but he's not a parent and has very little experience of children. She throws him out.
I tell her that perhaps he was just trying to help and she is now not speaking to me either.
Is she over reacting or am I just a crap parent?
Lizzie

I feel sorry for the boyfriend. He's probably at home thinking wtf and waiting for the Police to knock on his door.
I think you need to find a nicer friend. You sound great and deserve better.

I am massively sorry for that poor guy. For goodness' sake, even a real pedophile would find it very hard to get aroused about a child with diarrhea!!! If your friend wasn't happy leaving her boy with strangers... why did she call him to help???

Poor guy.

If your friend hates flannels etc what was the boyf suppose to wash the poo off the boy with, a jet force shower? I think she may have overreacted and you can only do your best to support her and if your best isn't good enough for this friend maybe it's time to make a new friend.

That is a point, actually: do you think your friend might be telling lots of people that the boyfriend is a nonce? If so, that is pretty awful because so many people will think 'Hmm, no smoke without fire', and this situation really really sounds like a bloke with no evil intentions trying to help a sick child.

Not quite the point of the thread, but am I missing something massively obvious here, re cleaning child with diarrhoea...?

All this talk of flannels (urgh) and bare hands (grim) and jet-force shower nozzles (WTF?). What is wrong with loo roll or baby wipes?

Slinking, I think the generally inferred point is that the child had messed his PJs and sheets, so presumably was pretty covered in it; in which case I certainly wouldn't be bothering with loo roll or wipes, straight into the bath and hose him down would be my instant preference! And yes, using hand to make sure the skin was clean because my hand will wash cleaner than any flannel will and will be kinder to his skin too.