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Is this controlling or am I ultra-sensitive?

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SkinnyHead · 14/01/2012 16:26

Been with my boyfriend around 4 months. 2 months after we met we spent one night at his house, duvet on the sofa, naked underneath snuggled up watching a movie. It was nice but the weather was warmer back then! A month or so later we did the same thing but the weather was freezing and I took some nightwear to wear under the duvet. He started whinging saying it wasn't the same and he didn't want me to wear anythinh Hmm now you can imagine the inpracticalities of going to toilet etc when naked in someone's living room when the temp in the rest of the house is something like 4 degrees. He said he'd put all the heating on etc and whinged and whinged so in the end I just gave in and didn't wear anything but I was quite annoyed at being pushed like this. Anywa I'm due to sleep tthere tonight too and he's already said about the duvet/sofa/movie set up. I know he'll start on about the nightwear again but you know what, it's -2 degrees outside, not the weather in my opinion for lounging around the house naked so I'm taking nightwear. I know he'll whinge and complain but ffs shouldn't it be my decision??? So am I being hyper sensitive or is he being overly controlling??

OP posts:
lazarusb · 15/01/2012 12:11

SGB - really? If you are the same OP SGB is referring, ffs, run! That is far from normal!

FetchezLaVache · 15/01/2012 12:45

Have sex on Skinnyhead?? Please tell me that's one of these autocorrect thingies...

thenightsky · 15/01/2012 14:18

Oooh... I remember that thread too SGB.

clam · 15/01/2012 14:23

No autocorrect! Having sex on is exactly what some men appear to do.

How did it all go last night, anyway?

solidgoldbrass · 15/01/2012 15:09

No, having sex on women is how some men seem to percieve it: the woman's enjoyment or enthusiasm for the activity is irrelevant to them. I don't mean 'all men are rapists' and I do make a distinction between rape and the man who sulks and whines and pesters until the woman agrees to sex, or just creates a general unpleasant atmosphere if he feels that sex is not happening frequently enough.

kelly2000 · 16/01/2012 12:29

he is being an arse. Do nto give in at all, it will be the thin end of the wedge.

kelly2000 · 16/01/2012 12:31

if he is pissing you off after four months, then this is not going to be a runner. Dump him rather than invets more time with the prat.

oldmerryolesoul · 16/01/2012 21:36

Yep at the very least selfish and whiney...... I would be tempted to take the duvet to the loo...... let him freeze his bollocks, or tell the stingey git to put the heating on, but he sounds like too much effort

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