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So, he's completely ignored my text

82 replies

marmiteandjam · 13/01/2012 22:02

I am supposed to be going out on a date on Sunday with a guy I met last week. So far all our conversations have been via FB but on Wednesday he gave me his mobile number. We dedn't speak yesterday so at about 8.10pm today I text him saying "How are you?" almost immediately he text back saying "Who is this?". I had forgotten at this point that I hadn't actually given him my number Blush. So I said "it's MarmiteandJam". Since then, nothing and it's now 10pm.

I'm obviously not going to text again but what should I do? What if he doesn't contact me? Should I cancel the date?

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losttheflickumdickumagain · 13/01/2012 23:13

Sorry, but it would natter me that he's messing me about already. If he answered straight away to ask who it was, I would have thought he'd see your reply immediately too. I don't think it was nice of him to not reply to your text. Hope there is a reason, and he's not just like that.
Hope you have a good weekend whatever you do Smile.

losttheflickumdickumagain · 13/01/2012 23:16

Actually, if his phones anything like mine, he may have replied and it'll turn up in a few hours. I'm sure I live in the twilight zone where my texts disappear for ages Grin my neighbour got one from me the other day, that I'd sent two days before!

wannaBe · 13/01/2012 23:21

I think that texting has too much expectation attached to it.

We've developed into a society that require instant validation of our attempts to correspond and if we don't get an instant response then we consider we've been given the brush off.

I imagine it's actually possible he didn't see the response text, as having received a "hello, how are you" text from an unrecognized number he probably thinks it's a wrong number and might look later. Or perhaps he's busy, or perhaps he's gone out and isn't of the texting-while-he's-supposed-to-be-socialising type.

If you've chatted on fb then continue to chat on fb. Turn up for the date, see how it goes, but don't base your feelings on how and when he responds to his texts.

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marmiteandjam · 13/01/2012 23:33

Some very interesting points have been made. I think i Will try and focus on the fact that he has been very interested on fb and assume that all is well unless i hear otherwise.

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squeakytoy · 13/01/2012 23:37

I would be wondering if his wife/girlfriend had been the one who typed "who is this"... :(

AmberLeaf · 14/01/2012 02:31

I thought that too squeakytoy.

pickofthepops · 14/01/2012 02:39

Hope am wrong but would wonder about how many 'new' people, and I obviously mean women, he is giving number to... I had 'who is this' type text msg once. I knew the guy was a tart, part of his appeal at time, so it was obviously a cautious text back on his part as I'd sent him a flirty text and he was up to no good all over the place. Hopefully your guy is just a disorganised and/or busy / typical man

yellowraincoat · 14/01/2012 03:03

Jesus so much speculation. I've just looked at my phone for the first time since 7.30. I was out for dinner, then came in and checked my emails and mumsnet and stuff...

Not everyone is attached to their phone constantly, especially at the weekend.

SarahStratton · 14/01/2012 08:46

Look, if you really want to stalk him know, just phone the restaurant and see if he's made a reservation.

Although, I agree with everyone else, you are reading far too much into this. Give him a chance, and play cool. Most people run a mile from neediness, those that don't are the ones you should be running from.

Anniegetyourgun · 14/01/2012 10:52

I find it amazing that some people look at their phones every day.

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marmiteandjam · 14/01/2012 11:21

So, update. I finally received a text about 1.5 hours ago saying "omg, i am so sorry. i text you last night but the message didn't send. really looking forward to tomorrow". Do i give benefit of the doubt?

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saladcreamwitheverything · 14/01/2012 11:24

Yes. Go for it. What's the worst that can happen? Go and have a lovely time and let us know how it goes! Smile

[rushes off to buy wedding hat]

Starwisher · 14/01/2012 12:02

That's a lovely message from him op, now just relax and enjoy your upcoming date.

And maybe tone down the over-analysis too!

Have fun it sounds like he likes you a lot already x

TooEasilyTempted · 14/01/2012 12:49

Of FGS of course you give him the benefit of the doubt. It's perfectly plausible that he could have been somewhere with a bad signal and the text truly didn't send! He was probably at home this morning wondering why you hadn't replied to him after his last text to you!

. Is this what women are doing these days, are we now seriously considering dumping perfectly nice guys over the bad timing of one text?!

You really need to chill out.

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marmiteandjam · 14/01/2012 13:04

So mn verdict is to go on the date!! Best i do then Grin Will report back on Monday morning!!

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barkwithnobite · 14/01/2012 20:57

Hope it goes well for you Hun x

losttheflickumdickumagain · 14/01/2012 22:16

Hope you have a lovely time too Smile.

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marmiteandjam · 14/01/2012 22:34

Thanks, I'm getting quite excited now Grin

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Geordieminx · 14/01/2012 22:38

Bin him on the groundd he said omg.

Is he 14?

barkwithnobite · 14/01/2012 23:17

Minx, are you like 70?? Whats the big deal writing shorthand FFs!

BillyBollyBandy · 14/01/2012 23:20

Go!!!! And update us obv

Obv was for you Minx Wink Grin

ScarlettIsWalking · 14/01/2012 23:30

Oooh good luck x

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep · 14/01/2012 23:57

Wow, so asking how a person is is boring and unworthy of a reply?!

Every day is a school day!

ImperialBlether · 15/01/2012 00:08

Grin @ "are you like 70?"

Bark, you sound about 12.

lubeybooby · 15/01/2012 07:50

Oh thank goodness - I would give benefit of the doubt on that one, yes. Good luck on your date today :o

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