Debate with hubby::

[liverLadyLass]

Ok, so how long does it take for you to get ready???
we argue over this all the time,
I will take an hour, my DH seems to think this is too long and I'm a bit selfish as he will need to wait on me as he only takes roughly 15mins, he's in and out n dressed, and constantly moans at me about doing my hair, makeup etc,because it takes to long,,, I also have two kids at eight and three, and they are not easy getting ready! He will help out with the ironing or run a bath for the kids but I get them all sorted mainly.. I'm feeling that he just does not like me spending anytime on myself whatsoever and I've told him this.. He says I'm being silly and that I'm just not considering him? I have explained on numerous occasions that woman don't just jump in a give there balls a wee wash and that's them sorted! And that Im not prepared to just do that! (jump in and out) because I like to look after myself, am I inconsiderate, do I take to long? Honest opinions please ?

Sorry, but why is he moaning about how long 'you' take to get ready, when that seems to include you getting the dc ready??? I'm talking about when he has days off.
Tell him to get of his arse and get the children their breakfast and get them dressed. That includes getting clothes ready for them - FFS...

• this is normally another bicker we have as he will say ?you just get you ready and the kids ready and I'll sort myself' -

And he complains that he is waiting around, FFS again....

Do you not see what is going on here? He's being a lazy shite.

I can get in the bath wash my hair, put my face on in 20 mins.

Not a supermum at all - I've just come to realise that it's not possible to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear no matter how long I try...

Your probably right imverytired, pulling a fast one lol,, you go girl fabbychic any secrets you can share??

I take 30 mins including full make up and blow drying of very long, very thick hair and nail varnish!
But as everyone else says, you take as long as you do/need.
It really fucks me off when my dh hurries me up as he has no idea how low maintenance I am compared to some of my friends!

(Does anyone say 'nail varnish' anymore? )

To be honest whatever everybody is doing is totally irrelevant.
The issue here is that he is expecting you to look after the dcs and not lift a finger even during the weekends.
And then expects you to be ready at the same time than him.

TBh if you are that tired, I am not surprised that you are taking longer to get ready. I know that I am tired, taking time to have a ong shower and not rushing helps me being more awake and coping better with the day.

I would also have a look at the routine in your house. If your dd wet her bed regularly, even when she is in your bed, then perhaps it would easier for everybody for her to be in nappies at bedtime. Everyone would get a better sleep and be mmore restful, which would make things easier.
Same with your ds, that should be able to look after himself.
And you DH that should know by now thyat he is as able as you are to do childcare during the weekend, however hard he is working during the day.
Has he ever been left in charge of both dcs for the day?

I went the bingo with my sis ages ago a few times and he was left with them, so he was just to get them to bed everything else was done, so not really no, if he has been left with them he's been at home or he's taken them to his mothers.. He's never taken them both out by himself only one at a time, He has said in the past he didn't want to get dd ready as he doesn't know how to do her hair etc and I know how to do it better,and with our ds he says he'll get him organised ie turn the shower on for him or iron his stuff, but leaves ds to do it himself and when I check his teeth they are not cleaned proper and I feel he should over look this to make sure it's done but he doesn't he says he's big enough to do it himself,and give ds a row if hes not done it, as he's already been asked to do so., personally I agree to a point but things like cleaning teeth should be over looked by the parent to make sure it's done.. dd is still put to be with a nappy on as I don't think she's ready but she is taking it off when I'm leaving the room and putting her trousers bk on and then peeing the bed, I'll just need to keep checking she has it on,,

OP your DH is refusing to take any responsability in raising his dcs.
Don't fall for it. The 'I don't know how to do it', 'You do it better' and I am going to do it badly so I am not asked again and all well tested ways to get away with not doing the things you don't want to do.
Give him his responsabilities back, incl being able to spend a full day (incl doing his dd hair) with his dcs wo you/his mum and still having to do normal day to day stuff like tidying up (a bit), cooking lunch and dinner, keeping 2 dcs of different ages entertained etc...

Hi knowyourself: his words to me is ‘well if I help you with your work,what are you doing during the day?' I could of throttled him!!