DH will be going to a strip club when hes away - help me make it alright in my mind please!!

[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

DH is going on a stag weekend in June which will involve lots of strippers. He has never seen a stripper before and although he says hes not bothered by seeing one but it will be part of the trip I am having trouble dealing with the thought of it in my mind.

When we met 6 years ago I was only 16 and typically immature and jealous. I wouldnt even let him look at pg 3 girls FFS! Fortunatly I grew up and now have no problem with porn etc.

But this stripper thing is totally new to me and as irrational as it sounds, I feel jealous. I dont like the idea of him seeing naked women (Me being the only female hes ever seen naked in rl!) I dont like the idea of other woman turning him on, of them dangling there boobs in his face etc

But rationally, I know there is nothing to worry about, He wont cheat on me and he wont love/fancy me any the less. But the unrational part of me says nooooo its nasty pervvy behaviour to go and drool over naked woman, I dont want you getting off on them etc

A bit pathetic to feel like this i know, so how can I get over it???

(I feel very silly for feeling like this)

But I dont want him titalated by anyone

I really hate the thought of him going, I didnt realise how much until I read steves post (thanks for your imput btw ) I dont want my sweet loving DH going somewhere like that...Its aklmost like I feel he will be tainted

Maybe I should go to one with him before hand? So I know exactly what its like and my imagenation wont be running wild whist he is away (3 nights in blackpool)

One one occaision, the comedian was a chap in a wheelchair.

As I returned from the loo, he looked over at me, commented that I was shorter than him (the b*stard!) and asked me what I had been doing for so long in the loos.....

I had contemplated giving him a hand signal in response, but I was more interested in the floor opening up and swallowing me whole at that point....

The strips are unlikely to raise more than an eyelid in anyone over the age of 20. Although the best one I ever saw was a girl who came onto the stage naked and actually got dressed in front of us...One for Mr Sigmund Freud, I think !!!

Tamba,
it is actually more degrading for the men. The girls actually enjoy the "power" they have over their viewers.

An anyway, you husband has alerted you to the fact that the stag weekend is likely to include a strip club and drinking. The weekend is probably organised by others and he will be tagging along. He has been quite open and honest which is honerable of him.

If he feels uncomfortable with the strippers part of the weekend (and this is likely to be be a fact with more than one of the chaps on the weekend), he can always give his excuses and play snooker next door.

As for you girls going to a male stripper evening, that gives me the shivers. Not the fear of my wife getting interested in any of the stallions on show, but the situation of boistrous women getting too close to the action and waving cigaretttes about.

Just for interest, What did your husband think about you going on your girls night out?

tamba it sounds as though you are married to the right brother anyway

actually if my dp was that desperate for a bit of non-domestic titillation i would prefer he went and found it with a consenting (unpaid) adult. rather than going to strip joints. but i can see not everyone would feel like that.

dh went to a posh lap dancing club on his stag night

he did talk about it rather a lot afterwards and it pissed me off - only time I have felt jealous really.

The problem I have w/strip clubs is that they're a waste of money. But as far as the nudity goes, well, what a waste of money to have silicone rubbed in your face.

expat. Also the drinks cost a fortune.

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tamba I cant blame you for being angry and worried, I used to work in a local pub that had strippers of both sex on.
I once had a male stripper chasing me around with his wang and his body covered in baby oil, he rubbed it all over me.I came home stinking of baby oil and my dh went ballistic ( I had to tell him what happened before the locals did)
As for the female strippers I dont really want to go there
but this applies to pubs not clubs as I think there acts are regulated.

Wouldn't bother me if he was titillated (sp). Off you go then cod, that'll give em more than they bargained for..

Tamba - there's a website Here belonging to one on the clubs in Blackpool. It has pictures of the girls and the club and they can also get on the VIP list ask a stag group.

Just remember that the clubs here cater for the stags, they are not back street places full of dirty old men (dirty young men instead ) It's pathetic and vile but it seems to be a ritual with stag weekends!

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That's what I thought - caught in the headlights!

How would it be if you went to a Hen Night and they had male strippers on? Would you think there was a reason for your dh to feel jealous?

I know men take these things more seriously than women. After all women can't really get turned on by seeing someone's knob dangling down in front of them can they? More likely to want to puke! But the female form is beautiful and men do get turned on.

However it will be you reaping the benefits of that. Just make sure that you're in the mood when he comes home!

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Cod!!!!!!!!! That is NOT helpful!!!!
Anyway, who says that she'll be thinking of him? I always think of Luke myself!

It will probably be pubs rather than clubs that they see strippers in I think and he will be away fro 3 nights. Thats a hell of a lot of strippers.

I hate the thought of dh being around those woman in the piccie, why on earth would i want him to be out with half dressed women???

The more I think about it the more I think No way is he going.

Tis true though Cod. How could he not be thinking about the scantily clad women that hes been gwaping at for 3 nights??

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OMG, if they look like any of those lot, I wouldnt be in the slightest bit worried.

They bark.

Well, i just looked at a few more sites of clubs and pubs in blackpool.

Then I called him upstairs and we had a talk, I said that I had been thinking about it for days and I couldnt stop feeling discusted by it. I hate the idea and I think i would respect him less for going.

He thought i was sweet (??) and then I got a little bit upset and said didnt he realise that i hadnt made a rash decision but had researched it and thought about it alot. So he then took me seriously.

He said he wont go if it bothers me that much, but he did look very sulky about it so I showed him bubblerocks link and sked if him he thought i would feel if i was at home and knew he was out drinking with naked women etc. I explained that I wasnt trying to control him and tell him whether or not he could go, that I was just telling him how I felt and I felt bad for feeling like that but its a fact.

He seemed to understand more then (i think not saying "you cant go" helped) and is going to invite his brothers out for a drink near us instead.

I am alot happier about this now, but I suspect he isnt so pleased about it.

You mean he isnt going?

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