Would you send this email to OW?

[hairymonkey]

P gave me the usual shite 2 weeks before Xmas, not sure if he wants to be with me anymore, met someone else, though nothing has happened (I don't believe him) found emails on his phone Christmas day while he was putting boys to bed. Nothing to bad, just very flirty. He had promised all contact had stopped, lied to my face.
After another week of his shit I have asked him to move out.
Is it really stupid to send this woman an email explaining her part in the break down of relationship? What I've written is clear and concise, not blaming her, just letting her know her actions and flirtations have consequences, namely breaking the hearts of my boys.
Also any future relationship has dubious origins. CC old Twatface in.
Just think she should know what all is entails.....

Never do this. It just makes you look desperate. Better to just save it as you have done. Cos honestly, if you send it, she won't care. Why would she?

No, I wouldn't. When I found out H was having an affair, I informed OW's husband and told him what they had been up to this. This I do not regret. She intially found it amusing when I found out and thought she could just lie - tried to say it was just a couple of flirty texts (it was much more). Once I had contacted her H, the smile was completely wiped off her face and she was forced to face what she had done.

However, I also emailed her and told her what she had done to me and my children. All I got back was an email where she saw herself as the victim, still bleating that nothing happened and that my H must be a liar and a fantasist. It was clear that she didn't give a shit about the part she played in it all or what it had done to me and DC. Interestingly though, it did open H's eyes to what a deceitful lying bitch she is.

The road to recovery has been a long one for me and there have been other times I have been tempted to contact her but I have stopped myself. It achieves nothing in the longer term. Do I feel any better for contacting her? No. Did it aid my own recovery? No. Did it ease DC's pain? No. Think carefully before you do anything. Once an email is sent, it can't be undone

No - you were not in a relationship with her but your partner and any promises made were between you. I'm with AF, how grim and lacking in self respect. If he doesn't want to be with you let him go. Living well is the best revenge.

Hello. I know what you are going through, just found out my H is "almost" having sex with OW. Hasn't yet. But has left. And she's still my friend on Facebook.
Should I post "hope you're happy marriage wrecker" on her wall?

no, don't do that
she wasn't married to you

your husband is responsible for his marriage

I am very sorry, btw, I hope you don't let him come crawling back