At what point do I remind DH that today is my birthday?

[MakeTeaNotWar]

He forgot last year too. Perhaps he'll notice the cards received in the mail artfully placed on the bookcase at some point? I booked us dinner for Sat night and reckon the longer he forgets, the more expensive the wine I shall be ordering.

Happy Birthday!

I'd leave it till 23:59 so he can't nip out for some petrol station flowers

about two weeks ago

oops, and a very Happy Birthday to you (whether or not he remembered)

Tell him now, what's the point waiting? You'll have a nicer day the earlier you tell him. But yes, 2 weeks ago would have been better.

norks

haooy birthday tea

ahem... happy

That's shocking. Is he generally a twat?

00:01 tomorrow, then really let him have it with both barrels.

Is there any chance that he may have a surprise planned for this evening?

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday MakeTea - tell him now - "You've forgotten again haven't you".

Then, finances allowing, book yourself a treat for Saturday daytime and a table at a good restaurant for the evening. Tell him to sort out a babysitter (I hate doing it and its always left to me)

Happy Birthday - I might be just a little furious!

However due to the forgetting last year, at no point did you not subtly hint about it earlier?

When you say goodnight in bed, turn and say thank you for not making a fuss you know how much I would gate it if you went to any trouble. Then turn over and go to sleep, he wont be able too!

Happy Birthday MakeTeaNotWar.

I agree you should tell him now, while he can still do something.

Ps happy burthday

I did remind him last week, when I checked he was free to take me to dinner on Sat before I made the reservation. Maybe he thinks that will suffice? I was thinking of not saying anything until I get myself ready for dinner on Sat night (which no doubt he has also forgotten) and watch the penny drop. Passive-aggressive much?

I would have told him 2 weeks ago as well ... and every day in between. I don't want a present, but breakfast in bed is always appreciated (he has to get DD age 12 up and she makes it).

Happy birthday.

Well, you think he'd remember seeing as how it's just after Christmas and, presumably, the same date each year?

Happy Birthday - mention it now while he can still spoil you this evening .

I don't think that forgetting a birthday makes you a twat. But how you react when you discover that you have forgotten is the issue.
When he forgot last year, did he apologise profusely? And rush to get gifts? And shower you with affection and adoration whist continually saying how awful he felt for forgetting your birthday?
Because I am an extremely forgetful person. I forgot my own birthday once! So I can excuse it in someone else, as long as they are genuinely sorry and make up for it with material things!
My DH forgot our anniversary once. I told him that evening, I thought it was quite funny.
He was devastated. Really, really upset that he had forgotten. I felt awful too then!
Maybe he is going to surprise you later?

I would have told him 2 weeks ago as well ... and every day in between.

blow that. if he doesnt care enough to want to remember it, or even jot it down on his phone, sod him. I wouldnt care enough to remind him

Just seen that you reminded him last week? Hmmm, maybe he is pushing things...

A very happy birthday!

I don't care whether he cares or not, I just want my annual breakfast in bed

I'd be furious. How can a partner/husband forget your birthday? Do you not matter? Tell him now.

I'd be furious. How can a partner/husband forget your birthday? Do you not matter? Tell him now.

I would be thinking of the very expensive nice present you are going to suggest when he hopefully starts grovelling.

Happy Birthday

I'd be absolutely livid. Does he permanently exist in a little bubble of self-obsession?