At what point do I remind DH that today is my birthday?

[MakeTeaNotWar]

He forgot last year too. Perhaps he'll notice the cards received in the mail artfully placed on the bookcase at some point? I booked us dinner for Sat night and reckon the longer he forgets, the more expensive the wine I shall be ordering.

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Tell him afterwards and direct him to where he can go TO MAKE UP FOR IT with his credit/debit card.

I wouldn't remind him at all

he will remember if he wants to

you booked the table and so that's not needed to be done - I would have booked a meal with friends that do want to remember and left him home

Oh and Happy Birthday!

DH always thinks my birthday is a month before it actually is, I have to tell him it's not my birthday.
We've only been together for 30 years.

I absolutely adore my DH. However..I find it very difficult to remember his birthday. I don't know why as we have been together over 15 years. It's strange because I remember lots of very random birthdays.

Better to laugh at it and have fun while remembering he's forgotten!

Happy birthday.

I think you should have reminded him two weeks ago, and give him very specific instructions about what presents you want.

That's what I do, and am never disappointed.

Happy birthday, and hope you have a better evening, and agree about the wine!

Happy birthday!

I also think you should ask someone who remembered your birthday to go for dinner with you on Saturday. Why should he get to go out to celebrate something he didn't care enough to remember.

As for reminding him, is he at work now? Wait until he gets home, he might have done something sensible like have bought you a gift at lunchtime and will arrive home with it. Wait and see. After that, I'd tell him shortly after returning home, making it clear that running out there and then to get you a gift is too late, but you'll expect something soon. Also, do you have a favourite takeaway? You don't want to cook tonight, send him.

Happy Birthday! I would remind him now. My OH is just as bad. forgets his own birthday too... Doesnt make him a bad partner or a twat

When did you remind him last year? He really needs a kick up the arse, it's not difficult to remember one date a year surely? (or two if you count anniversary). I'd be really upset.. but saying that, my Dad forgot my Mum's birthday one year, it wasn't because he didn't love her, he's just shit at remembering things..

I'd go out on Saturday with friends who DID remember your birthday, and 'forget' that you're married, for the night!

I'd ask him if he had forgot something and then stare pointedly at the cards.

Well? What did you do OP? I would have had a wobbly bottom lip ages ago!!

He arrived home from work bearing flowers and a card, clearly bought in a guilty panic, tail well and truly between legs. Not a great result, he looks like a smacked puppy but here's hoping for next year....

Well, he obviously didn't want to cause an upset even if he is a sieve head

Hello Tea, wanted to post and say Happy Birthday (even though it has not been entirely so for you). Apart from the smacked puppy demeanour, is DH showing any penitence at all? Agree with the others who suggest you take someone who did remember to dinner. Only, take DH as well and tell your other guest the terribly funny story of how DH has managed to be a very silly boy and forget your birthday two years running. Oh how you'll laugh! You are probably much too fine a person to consider doing so but if you make the evening highly memorable perhaps DH won't forget again.

You could have a few sherberts and dance on the table.

How bothered is he about his own birthday, OP? Some people really don't think birthdays are a big deal, after all. And if he's one of them, he may have thought, oh well we are going out for her birthday dinner at the weekend, job done.

Happy Birthday Tea.
I agree with solidgold; my DH isn't particularly bothered about his own birthday or presents, which I think is why he never makes a big deal of mine.