Hello, another new person here, I've been lurking a while. Sorry, it's a bit like a gym here, isn't it. Loads of new people show up in January and get in the way of the regulars for a couple of weeks :)
Well I am a classic case I'm sure. Very used to necking a bottle of wine a night (+ a large gin or two afterwards). Even if I didn't really want one, I'd still pour a glass once kids in bed, then another, etc. I found not drinking when I was pregnant very easy, as it wasn't really an option. In fact I even remember saying to DH when pregnant how I wasn't missing it at all, but then as soon as I could afterwards, I thought well I might as well have one. Forced it down, even though it tasted horrible, and soon ended up back where I started.
I read the Allen Carr book in the summer. I found it really helpful, cried when I finished it, thinking "this is it!", but I couldn't quite get my head around not questioning your decision to stop, once you've made it. I was constantly thinking about it and there were literally litres of wine in the house (as it had been on offer 
) so I decided (after about a day..) that I couldn't possibly stop while there was alcohol in the house and set about finishing it. Then I ended up in a silly situation where I was drinking possibly more than normal in order to try and get through the wine. Finally got rid of it and 'stopped' for about a day but by then it had been ages since I'd read the book and it was the weekend, or some other excuse, etc, so I'd buy more wine, then have to get rid of that. etc etc. Then it got to nearly Christmas December and I thought sod it, I'll stop in January.
So here I am, my last drink was on 1st January and I am committed to not drinking in January (and seem to have got that firmly in my head as not negotiable, so this is an improvement! I am not constantly questioning / trying to justify have a drink this evening for once. It's just not going to happen).
Crucially, though, I'm not planning on drinking on 1st Feb either. I'm not sure what I'm going to do come February yet. I really don't think drinking only on weekends would work - have tried that before, it lasts a few weeks but then it starts creeping into the week and then I just give up trying completely.
I'd really like to just not ever drink again, but I just can't picture that, at weddings etc, meals out. I don't feel confident enough to say to friends that I'm not drinking when we go out as I know it will get a big reaction and pestering, and I'll either get annoyed with them or will give in and drink. For now I'm just keeping my head down and not got any plans to go out and hoping by the end of January it will be clearer and I'll be feeling the benefits of not drinking so will be less tempted. For now, my tentative plan for the future is to have a drink when I go out but never at home.
Like others have said, I feel like shouting it from the rooftops that I've been sober for over a week, but I think I'd just get 
looks :)
I'd really recommend the Allen Carr book to those of you struggling with that "It's unfair" feeling of not being able to drink, and the rebelling against yourself / others by drinking. Even though I didn't stop in the summer, I've kept thinking about it and stopped feeling like it's a treat to drink. And made me realise that the 'drinking at weekends' rule only reinforces the feeling that it's a treat and that's why it so often fails. Not drinking is a better treat for you! (and repeat to self x10). It sounds a bit like the jason vale book too (have not read that, but just going by earlier posts) - explaining how we get sucked in by the brainwashing that drinking is what people do when they get older.
Big motivations for me are my DDs. I can force myself to not drink if I have to drive early in the morning for work occasionally, for example, but not if I'm going to be looking after them in the morning. That's so wrong. Obviously drink driving is crucial to avoid, but they are important and don't deserve a knackered / rough / grumpy woman first thing in the morning either.
And re going out / parties without alcohol (as an adult) - if I think of them at a party now, would they be happier with a drink - no, it's a horrifying thought, poisoning them, so why do we do it to ourselves. I certainly do not want them growing up seeing me with a wine glass in my hand all the time.
Apologies for this huge essay, once I started I wanted to get it all down, for my own sake really, so I can re-read it in weaker moments! Thank you if you have read this far :-)