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How fast did your relationship progress?

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KnickersOnOnesHead · 22/12/2011 00:21

How long did it both take you to say those three words?

To plan your life together?

To live together? To get married?

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HoneydragonAteCliffRichard · 22/12/2011 00:25

Snogged at 21
Married at 22
Pregnant at 23

signet2012 · 22/12/2011 00:28

Came round one week for a coffee, never went home again.
Engaged six months later
six years on TTC but no marriage as we cant afford it really.

WorraLiberty · 22/12/2011 00:36

Dated when I was 16 and he was 18

Split up after 6 months cos he moved away with his parents so dumped him Blush

Met again when I was 32 and he was 34

Married 2yrs later

So you could say 16 years really Xmas Grin

SnowFunIntended · 22/12/2011 00:43

I actually said I Love You after our first date, which was a long weekend at an event, but I was a chicken and said it so be didn't hear it. :) He said it the next weekend, and I said it too. Had planned on the phone and by numerous emails during the week apart (long distance) that this was it, we were meant to be.

Got married a year to the day after we met, having moved in a fortnight previous. I did want to wait to live together after our wedding but the practicalities of him moving across the country, getting a new job, meant the timing didn't quite pan out.

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KnickersOnOnesHead · 22/12/2011 01:09

I'm Grin now.

Really fallen for someone, and he's hopelessly fallen for me. Cannot do the whole moving in then yet those because of my dc's.

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SnowFunIntended · 22/12/2011 01:14

Aw. Enjoy. When you know, you know.

fluffypinkcurlygirl · 22/12/2011 01:40

first date to engaged was four months. found out I was pregnant a month after that. Married two years and three months after first date.quite quick but knew he was the one for me.

fluffypinkcurlygirl · 22/12/2011 01:45

oh moved in seven months after first date

fortyplus · 22/12/2011 01:50

My brother got a new job one summer, snogged someone at the office Christmas party, moved in with them in the Jan (I was horrified). 18 years later we'll all be spending a lovely family Christmas together Xmas Smile

startail · 22/12/2011 01:51

I gave him a lift home and stayed for 3 days.
Engaged after 6 weeks.
Married after 2 years
2 DDs
Married 21 years
And I'm about to get grief for being a night owl and not going to bed!

eandz · 22/12/2011 01:55

he asked me to marry him the day after we met. i was practically about to beg him to marry me the moment i met him.

although we got engaged right away, we got married 4 years later. (we were only 18 when we met, we had to finish University and get jobs first).

eandz · 22/12/2011 01:55

oh, we had a ds right after our second wedding anniversary, and we've just celebrated our 5th.

ninah · 22/12/2011 01:56

husband number one married and divorced within two years, pretty good going I'd say

IslaDoit · 22/12/2011 02:10

We got engaged after three months and married just under a year later but I had been friends before we got together. I love the bones of him.

Broodzilla · 22/12/2011 04:02

We moved in together less than a month after meeting... Mainly due to circumstances throwing us together. Got engaged the year after, married after 7 yrs, had DC1 after 8 years and DC2 is on the way now. We'll have been together 11 years this summer. We've had ups and downs and have gone through some major life changes... But somehow, it's always felt like it's the way it should be.

WaitingForMe · 22/12/2011 04:17

It was all a bit backwards. Our first date was after we'd slept together, I moved in with him for a fortnight for what was about date six (then didn't see him for 10 weeks), I asked him to marry me when he was planning to do it on a holiday that became our honeymoon and I decided I wanted that proposal as well so I got officially proposed to after we were already married.

We knew it was love from day one and never worried too much about the details Xmas Grin

DMAGA · 22/12/2011 04:29

Got engaged on 3rd date - although he wanted to propose on 1st date and I would have accepted - married 5 months later. We have 3 DDs and celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary next year. It was the biggest, the best but also the easiest decision I have ever made. As someone else posted 'when you know, you know'!

Tinselperion · 22/12/2011 06:43

Similar to waiting - we did it a bit backwards. Met in September, slept together the following June, met the family and went on holiday together in August, moved in together in September. Didn't actually fall properly in love with him until Christmas and told him at new years. Engaged a year later, married 16 months after that, PFB born 18 months later.

We seem to work in approximately 18 month cycles...if so we can expect DC2 in June 2013 Wink

leftmymistletoeatthedoor · 22/12/2011 07:10

Met in a nightclub almost exactly 11 years ago (I was 19, he was 22).

Think I loved him almost instantly. He told me he loved me after a month and I was a bit scared of it all!

Got engaged after 8m. Moved in after 9m, married after 4.5 years (had to graduate) , had kids a year and a half after that.

Married, 2 kids and living in suburbia now :)

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KnickersOnOnesHead · 22/12/2011 11:07

So, 'moving fast' isn't that big a deal then? Grin

We have been chatting almost two months, met last week and seen each other 4 times. I am stopping at his Friday night so I guess that will be the big test as to whether he can put up with my snoring/farting/flying arms etc etc

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jen127 · 22/12/2011 11:18

met in April , didn't see each other till the following New Year. He proposed within 3 weeks , we moved in within 6 months, married within the year and DS was born on year 3 .......

missmiss · 22/12/2011 11:20

We got together at the beginning of June, he moved in at the end of October but had basically been living with me since the middle of July. That was over two years ago Grin

dameednaspecs · 22/12/2011 11:54

First date two weeks after we met.
Slept together after 5 months.
Said 'ILY' after a year.
Engaged after nearly 4 years.
Married after 5 years (since we met).
Moved in together two weeks after our wedding (after the honeymoon).

I already had DD from previous rl, so needed to be sensible and cautious, plus things progressed more slowly as we couldn't see each other as often due to childcare. We might have moved in together earlier if no DC involved, but I had to give up a secure rented place to move into his owned house, so wanted the security of marriage first.

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Smum99 · 22/12/2011 12:09

We moved in after 2 years together but we had dc's and didn't want to rush/force anything. If we didn't have dc's it would have been earlier. I'm glad we waited - we had a lovely honeymoon period that we both still reflect on. The realities of step life is tough and that time gave us a firm foundation to build on.

If you have dc's/house/finances then it is more complex compared to your teens/early 20's when you are just starting out and can build your life with a new person.