We have had a turbulent last 4 months - emmigration was planned and going through DH alredy working out there for 2and a half months. Job then suddenly fell through and he came back. We were devastated for a while, but house sale hadn't gone through, still had my job and DH seem positive would get a new job back in the UK, kids 14,12,7 all settled back into thier schools. However.......DH has always had depressive tendancies and has been on anti depressants for about 10 years, we've been married for 19. I think we've had an average marriage until now, although my family and friends have always pointed out to me that he's not much a support and other than going to work does very little for me around the house and doesn't do much at all with the children. What they don't know is that he's probably been an alcoholic for the last few years as well......never drinks during the day but always a bottle of wine at night every night, whether we've had the money or not. A few days ago he just flew off the handle about a silly incident of me not being able to answer a text while I was at work.....this blew up even more by the evening with him snarling at me in front of the kids calling me an F*ing bitch. Kids and I packed up and left, just to get out of the terrible atmosphere. He's now been crying on the phone about how sorry he is, he's having a mental breakdown, he's spoken to the doctor, he's made an appointment to get counselling.........I am going to see him today without the kids to talk about things, but he keep asking me if there's hope...has anyone been through the same thing?.....if he's having a mental breakdown (he has NO friends and his family are disgusted by his behaviour) will i just push him over the edge, I think he may do something stupid if I say i don't want to come back? I think I still love him...I just think over the last few months I don't like him anymore....it's 19 years of marriage and just don't know what to do for the best.