Blue, blue Christmas

[Flanelle]

I'm currently single and I don't hate it, but I don't love it either. I'm often lonely. Sometimes I'm terribly lonely. I have fab kids and friends I love, but I'd like a partner too. I truly don't care what he looks like or anything, but he so totally has to not be a fuckwit. Where do all the emotionally intelligent, funny, bright, curious, non-anxious, non-ambivalent, non-childish men hang out? Anyone any idea? Does your wonderful DH have a wonderful single brother? If he liked art and talking and listening and trying new stuff and snogging for hours and stuff like that, that would be so good.

erm, are you sure you don't want the option of keeping your ability to watch films in your ancient pj's and eat supernoodles from the pan ?

mind you, I do that and I am married

The right man will want to wear his own ancient PJs and eat supernoodles out of the pan WITH me!

then hold out or that

for

toomuch - yours sounds the best so far. is he still twisted about an ex who cheated on him a decade ago or anything similar?

I have TWO to offer you. Both within acceptable looking parameters.
No 1 - an ex army medic, solvent, own house, now works in telecoms. Slightly...strange (we suspect he may have unaddressed issues from his army days but he won't have it) but very naice. SO sweet.
No 2 - a very talented guitar player just made redundant from a prestigious music school. Very arty, although a bit tight with his money. He's gonna make it big one day (been telling us this since he was 11).

Not interested? No, neither was anyone else, which is why they are respectively 45 and 47 years old. I'd just like them to stop hanging round like maiden aunts every Xmas.

at springlamb. my sister picks up those types as sort of platonic partners (never sleeps with them i mean and yet they go everywhere with her, do all of her diy, get very attached to her children and go on holiday with her etc. odd i know) and they attach themselves (one at a time or it gets bitchy) to our family. the current one gatecrashes my christmas eve family do at my house without even being invited

so if all else fails one of them could be my sisters next.... thing? i'd probably go for the guitar player, i love talent and can handle poverty.

god it would be wonderful if you could all stick up photos and descriptions of these guys

besides - guitar player would always be able to bring in a bit of money giving guitar lessons and when the economy truly crashes skills like that will be the ones that keep people afloat. i shall do a few hours private counselling and a bit of tutoring and he can teach music lessons and we'll be fine

yep. first dibs on guitar playing boy please.

Oh, yes, they can get quite territorial over DH, it's quite funny to watch.
"Well of course, I have know him since we started secondary school"
"Well I met him a bit later but you went to LA to 'make it' for a few years so that makes us equal"
"No, no, I phoned him regularly from LA..."
DH is no bargain.

i can still remember an occasion where two 'things' were present at the same occasion. utter ridiculousness. the current thing goes to her church (only if she's going) and insists on sitting next to her and making a big thing of being there because an ex thing of my sister's also goes to the church.

god knows how she does it. i wish men would compete to come and lay laminate flooring at my house. she's not stunning or anything but she has her family and her home and her little world and they just seem to attach to it. she likes having them obviously but sometimes moans like hell that she can't get a moment to herself.

and the way they latch onto our family is bizarre. ds thinks they are family members.

Said before and will say it again - MN Dating would be ideal...

Btw, since I've finally sorted my own situation out, I would be willing to take delivery of a lovely new an in approx 2 months...

no, no, no. just a select few of us should be sent pics of your lovely single friends. we don't want it turning into a free for all!

Lovely new man... Bloody hell, I can't even write it - how on earth can I make it happen?

I have a lovely hat in a box, waiting for a celebration of A Certain Kind!

Happily married, but the ex medic and guitar player would come in handy as would the runner.

Namechanged as am about to reveal details of Stuff:

I have a WONDERFUL single female friend who seriously needs a man along the lines of the above. 33, Wolverhampton based. Likes the alternative type... Single over two years, not the type to throw herself into 'dating' but would love to meet someone...

MN dating!! 'MumsNetYourMan'

The rule would probably have to be that to be assigned a LovelyMan for you/your mate, you would first have to offer up a LovelyMan for the kitty.

One in one out!!

Am loving 'MumsNetYourMan'!!

Can we start it MNHQ?? CAN WE??

I can give you a lovely 25 yr old teacher. Bit quirky, slightly moody but so sweet and so very single and so very judgmental of men!

{She don't sound like a great catch!! }

Any tall (over 6'), 45+ men suitable for me?

I can offer a very sweet, very practical, slightly warped 39 year old in return. Tall and very good looking. Um, very well hung and knows what to do with it.

Someone post "MumsNetYourMan" in site stuff then...

SS, why aren't you keeping him for yourself then ?

< frown >

couldn't it be a bit like secret santa? we all put our names in and someone neutral draws them out and we get sent our man in the post?

Prepaid return just in case, Anagram?

I don't mind weirdness, as I cherish my own, but I can do without moodiness and issues. Baggage is fine. We've all got a bit of that.