I'm an ungrateful c*nt.

[witherhills]

I don't know where to start
I give up, will be going to my parents and starting our life over

Have you posted recently?

What happened wither? Know you've been having a bad time lately. Hope you're OK.

Glad you're getting out of there Witherhills.

well you'll be better off once the finances are sorted than you are now.

hope you are ok and your parents are being supportive.

Wither, you have to get out, you really do. Asap. Good luck my love, keep posting, we're here for you

His yoghurt was out of date, and I didn't get a new tyre for the car, even though the car passed it's mot last month(it's fine)

I'm so shit, I can't even remember anything he's just said. He's just been screaming at me for an hour. My head really hurts
DS had a lovely day, couple of friends birthday parties.
He's gonna lose all those friends, my heart is breaking for him.
Tell me he'll be ok, please

I dont recall the previous threads without searching for them, but yes, you will be ok, and your son will be ok too.

He will make new friends, kids are so resilient.

You are doing the best thing for your boy if you are removing him from an environment where an adult is screaming for hours on end at their partner.

I'd link the threads but I'm on phone so bit tricky
Most recent one was called how dare he
Thanks squeakytoy.

DS was really sick this week, and all he did was go out on the piss.
And I'm lazy because I should get up with him at 4.30 and have a cup of tea.
Delirious
I need to sleep

wither kids are resilient and your DS has already shown he is good at making friends so it will be fine.

Now go to sleep and stop worrying. You know you need to go.

"Tomorrow is another day!" (or actually today is... as it is 00:27!)

I read that thread, OP. Glad you're getting out of there. It's him, not you.

Glad to hear you're getting out. Your DS will look back in years to come and thank you for getting him away from that poisonous man; he won't be thinking that you should have stayed to be close to his little pals. He'll make new friends, he'll be so much happier. The change in my DCs in the few months since we've been out of a similar relationship is lovely - they're blossoming, so am I. You guys will too .

I wish yoiu the best of luck.

Don't worry about DS and his friends - he will make NEW friends. It is far more important that he doesn't have to overhear his dad call his mum a cunt for the rest of his childhood.

You sound so drained. I hope you manage to get to your mum's soon.

Having to make new friends will affect your son far less than growing up with an emotionally abusive father.

I know exactly how you feel wither. fwiw, my DD has been so happy here at mums. She's not asked for daddy once, and she is (was) a daddy's girl. Not any fucking more!

She sleeps with me each night and loves the attention, she hugs me so tight and tells me I'm her 'little pink flower'. And when ive cried all night and wake up looking like a train wreck, she says 'you look beautiful mummy!'.

She certainly does NOT hate me and neither will your DS

wither - sorry that you are in this situation, but I'm not sorry you are getting out of it. He's beyond fucking disgraceful. You are not shit, he's just making you feel shit. Your DS will miss his friends for a little while, but his life will be immeasurably better once he's not living with this dickhead & he will soon make new friends. Isn't there anyway you could stay in the same area?

You & DS will be so so so much better off.

Your DS is only four iirc (I have lurked on some of your other threads and your unhappy situation has stuck in my mind). He might miss his current friends for a week or two but he will forget them quite quickly. He needs a happy mother more than he needs his friends. You need to be out of there ASAP.

He woke me at 4.45, flinging the door open, switching on the light and asking me if I had anything to say for myself. Then phoned me consistently from work. I told him I wouldn't talk to him if he was going to be mean and nasty, he can't seem to help himself. The venom is pouring out.
He knows I'm serious about going home and that's his worse nightmare

This is the most dangerous time for a woman about to leave. I think you need to go ASAP and you need some help.

Where had you planned to go and when?
I cant remember your circs

He's not acting as if that's his worse nightmare. If he's so desperate for you to stay why is he treating you like this?

You need to stay strong. You can do this.

What are your plans for today?

Hi Witherhills he sounds like he's getting a bit unhinged so please be careful. I commented on your thread about his big night out, so I remember some of what you've been putting up with.

I don't know how old your DS is but he's going to be a mentally much stronger and happier person in the years to come if you deal with this now. I grew up in a horrible home environment that kept together for one reason and another and sometimes I think I'm not normal. I'm starting therapy (again) for my anger issues and I am so angry (hahaha) that I don't know how it is to just be normal and happy in a family and not always expecting something bad to happen. I'm projecting here a bit, but I'm just trying to show you that a calm childhood is like pennies in the bank for the future.

Go to your parents - but make sure you can take everything that is most valuable to you - e.g. documents and photos because he might do something stupid. Good luck - its not going to be easy but I'm sure its the start of something much better x x.

Hi Wither

I hope that you can leave ASAP

it is entirely the right thing to do...for you, and for your ds

a small child will quickly make new friends, don't use your son as a reason to stay with an abusive man...that will damage him much more

good luck x

How you doing?

I'm ok. Need to sleep.
Going to drive tonight
he is tied up with a work function today, so no more phone calls
I know I'm not responding to everyone individually, but I really appreciate your advice.
I would like to stay in London, but if he is not going to provide for DS, then I have no choice but to go home. It is his worst nightmare because he's a snob and I come from a very working class area, but actually, there are fantastic outstanding schools there, and his 2 cousins, who all adore each other
It's not what I envisaged for my son, staying at grandmas, but it's his
second home anyway.
I do have another choice. I have my old flat, but tenants only been in there for a month, so I could come back in 4 months, but that depends on job and money.
Tbh, I think leaving is the only way I can show him I am serious

From experience, he will calm down and see a bit of sense wrt DS.

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