DH has been diagnosed with renal cancer this week - small chance the tumour is benign but won't know until it is removed and anyway the likelihood is that it's malignant.
DH is very up and down - he's very emotional anyway and I am more pragmatic so we are managing while waiting for date for surgery.
He has a very difficult relationship with his mother - from reading a bit on here I would say she fits the mould of toxic parent. A couple of weeks ago she put the phone down on him over some pointless thing and hasn't spoken to him since. He has left 3 messages since getting his diagnosis, all asking her to call back urgently. She only phoned today, and didn't even ask to speak to him, instead insisting on talking to all the DCs. Eventually I told her she needed to talk to DH and now she is very upset, phoning back every 15 mins (so that's 5 calls in a day now) and has told me how upset she is that her "baby" has cancer.
DH has gone out to avoid the calls - any one got any advice on how I should handle her? I have told her he was very upset she didn't call back / didn't ask to talk to him.
Is there any point in getting embroiled in discussions with her? I have watched her swing between loving and indifferent towards him for do long that I have little patience with her bit feel for her being upset about this.
Sorry, this is a bit long winded I know. Any advice would be appreciated.