This should probably be an AIBU but it's about relationships and I want a serious answer.
Yesterday evening I suggested to DH that we get a takeaway (tough weekeend, 2 ill toddlers, thought it would be nice for us as a treat). Instead of just saying no, he started shaking his head and swearing under his breath whilst shouting 'really, oh fine then" before storming off in a strop.
As it obviously wasn't fine I said not to worry and just told him that there was no need to get angry he could just say no. Then he lost it totally and started shouting at me. I left him ranting in the kitchen as I wanted to avoid making things worse and while I was watching TV next door he cooked some pasta for us both but refused to talk to me while we ate it.
When we went up to bed he started again and, after being called a 'twat' and all manner of other unpleasant things, I spent the night on the floor in DD's room to get out of his way.
He's unapologetic today and still obviously very angry with me. I really am at a bit of a loss as to why?
He's quite old fashioned re husband/wife split on domestic duties. I don't have dinner waiting for him every night and do ask him to cook fairly regularly but then I have a 2 year old and 3 year old to chase around all day and work part time from home too.
I had PND after DD was born (and probably beforehand too) and it was during the time when I was really struggling with it that this all seemed to surface. I know he is disappointed with me as a wife but can't work out how to deal with it. What worries me most is that instead of telling me what is bothering him he builds up this resentment against me and then has these odd explosions.
Sorry, this has got longer than I intended. I really would welcome your thoughts - am I being mad or is he?