The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Spread The Festive Cheer, Without The Beer!

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Hello, I'm mouse.

I have an obsession with drinking, I can't have a drink, not just one..... it has to be more. Always more.

So, I got on the Bus, this Bus, full of Brave Babes who will help and support me all the way. Come say hi, grab a seat and a . We're a real mixed bunch that share one thing without any doubt - alcohol abuse.

And if you want to read about our history, it's HERE

See you on the Bus xx

Hello everyone

Blossom, a whole weekend alcohol-free?! Wowsers. Well done you. That takes extra courage given your DP's drinking (although it sounds like he might be doing better too). You should feel more than slightly smug :)

SAF, I think you're spot-on with how you're responding to last night. I know it can't have been nice going through all that emotional stuff last night, but it sounds like it will probably have done both you and your sister a lot of good. Like you say, better out than in. I'm in that phase you mentioned too. I'm dealing with all sorts of things and it's tough. Sometimes I think I'm just dwelling on them pointlessly but then at other times there are glimpses of almost a release, a letting go, a healing almost. So whilst most of the time I think I'm just a blubbering, emotional mess I must remind myself that I am making progress and coming to terms with things, and that this is something I have to do if I want to have the peace of mind that I long for. I hope you're OK today, SAF.

Ma, they wouldn't have asked you to be senior manager if they didn't think you could do the job... Keep reading that quote! Oh and I too went to an outrageously expensive craft fair a Christmas market and made soup yesterday! Nice to be doing nice stuff rather than just nursing a hangover.

Faire I will join you in the not faffing about department. Today I WILL NOT BE DRINKING. I'm feeling a bit better today. I just need to work out a good balance between keeping focused on my drinking, yet also not thinking about it all the flipping time...

Have good days brave babes

thank you silly. yay for moments of healing - that's a very good outcome that makes a bit of struggle well worth it imo so yes keep sight of the progress x

SAF not sure about what to say about your sister. I think I'd want to keep the bus to myself but I'm sure there's lots of help/advice/support you can use from here, but whilst still having the bus to yourself so that you can still be completely honest here. But maybe that's just me. Has she been drinking like this for a while?

yeah i think so silly. she also is very overweight and periodically pissed off about it but seems to think it's insurmountable. in reality the drink is probably the major issue behind the weight. anyho. don't think she'd post and talk to 'strangers' about her problems - not her thing. i was surprised to hear her admitting it was an issue actually rather than just joking it off.

I missed the change over to the new thread , anyway, I am here now marking my new spot on Gerald. This is day 21 of AF must go and catch up with my lurking and see how everyones doing......
Caught a bit of Faires post about dieting and food and alcohol. Thats me down to a T, I find I either eat healthily and no alcohol or drink and stuff myself.

So, currently, with no alcohol I have been eating as in Bprouds words industrial quantities of not just chocolate but anything sweet I can get my hands on... mince pies (with cream of course), shortbread, cake, brownies , curly wurlys, etc etc loadsa full sugar 'posh' ginger beer and lots of full sugar smoothies and fruit juices have got to tackle the weight issue as that wont help my health either.
Have lovely days Babes xxx

Oh and course I am such a worry head about my health the next thing I will be fretting about is the amount of sugar I am consuming and diabetes

i am such a fruitcake at times

not sure how to do a link but there is a thread on AIBU on "funniest/worst things you have done when drunk" which should make us all think twice before reaching for the booze...
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1352562-AIBU-to-ask-you-all-to-tell-me-whats-the-worst-funniest-most-awful-thing-you-have-done-whilst-drunk?msgid=28719353#28719353

Trying not to be catsbum mouth about it but I am genuinely shocked at some of theses stories....

I felt the same ma I thought i would read it and find some faintly amusing tales, and that there would be the occasional post that would make me think 'there but for the grace..... etc'. But the posts I read made me and at the level of risk that people are posting about (and finding funny). Makes me feel old.

And thankfully out of touch

ma - i used to find these stories hilarious, i even have some of my own (my drinking wasnt always compleatly distructive) i do find reading threads like that quite sad now though, all i can see in my minds eye is pretty, attractive young women putting themselves in awful, dangerous positions or just plain old undignifed ones! - in all my drinking years i have never woken up in a strangers bed etc and tbh i find the thought pretty distastful and im genuinely surprised that people boast about it - there we are, that marks me out as a judgy old bag with an ENOURMOUS catsbum mouth!

x posted i see! what do we have here? old persons anonymous?

Hi, I'm venus and I'm a quite old person. But I haven't been feeling old for 6 days. I used to start feeling old about 11 in the morning, and sometimes I gave into the feeling at lunch-time. By evening I was completely wrinkled and ancient and it took me days to recover..... One day when I ws feeling old I bought some nice sensible shoes, and I noticed how young the policemen were...

Is that the sort of thing you were thinking of JWN?

no. i can't see much fun in waking up in some randoms bed. don't think i'd be bragging about it either.

i have some funny stories (some funny, some bad) but don't think i'll be sharing them on there.

x posted. hilarious venus

hello im jesus and i havent been old for at least 4 hours, not since the nice young man trundled my wheelie bin back up the drive for me as he could see i struggling with it after tripping over the cat while wearing my faded leopard print housecoat and sensible slippers! ooohhh young man!!!

Ha ha ha!

A friend of mine bought some seriously comfortable shoes when I was with her the other day, and I was . I think this is the beginning of the end. :o

Afternoon babes! I start training for my semi-marathon this week, so I'm going to try and be quite healthy. I've decided that I'm going to abstain completely from the start of january until after I've done it, so that'll be a good three months without alcohol. If any of the running babes Faire mentioned want to offer any tips, feel free. I've only ever ran a 7km race before. That was in mid-september and I haven't been running much since, partly due to arthritis and partly due to drinking too much, so this will be quite a challenge for me.

Saf, glad to hear your dinner party went well, but that's a shame your sister is suffering. Maybe you could lend her that Knapp book when you've finished it, as a kind of catalyst?

I had a long, and long-overdue, sober conversation with DH yesterday and we sorted out a lot of the niggly little problems that were getting us both down, so I'm all loved-up today.

Hope the rest of your days are going ok, babeses.

Hello

Not much to add for those in need, germ central here plus had an exhausting weekend staying with friends as nemo's not so good still.

In brief -

My arm tingle is getting worse and far more frequent.

I keep getting a 'dropping' sensation mid afternoon like I'm coming in to land in a plane.

I've not managed to talk to the GP about the reduction in Citalopram yet.

I've not slept for days, since last Saturday night actually at my lovely friend's house.

The house is a tip, builder is still here re-plastering.

I've not stopped washing since last night, bloody washer and drier have been on all day.

DD loves me again. For now.

I drank but not too much over the weekend, just 2 glasses of white Friday and Saturday night.

I don't feel like drinking, I feel like I want a hot drink and my bed.

I wish I could be of more help to you all but I just can't right now.

My cough is keeping me awake and when I do cough, sometimes a little bit of wee escapes and I hadn't realised that I had incontinence issues as well

I'm going now, sorry to jump in moan to you all xxxx

Mouse! That sounds awful, you poor thing. I really think you need to make your health a priority now. Can you draft someone in to help with nemo and your DD for a short time until you get your health issues sorted out a bit?

Oh mouse you poor thing. Although we're in very different situations I can see some bits of myself reflected in you - someone who will give care to all others around herself, at the expense of her own needs and health; someone who never gives in, never gives up, until she is forced to; someone who is so used to fighting for everyone else that she forgets to fight for herself, and forgets how to let others care for her. Do you recognise any of that mouse? I had an awful cough and sinusitus for a couple of weeks - it was the reminder I needed that I wasn't paying ttention to my own needs.

I know that we can't come and physically look after you mouse but please let us encourage you, symapthise with you, and urge you to take lovely loving care of yourself. xx

OMG ma I cannot keep reading those drunk stories . I, too, am just getting old I think. And there I was worrying that sitting in my armchair drinking a bottle of wine a night was bad for my health! Well, of course it was but, blimey, not sure how people survived some of those incidents.

I do know someone, friend of a friend, who was notorious for being unable to handle her drink (she would frequently wet herself, fall over, etc.) She died in her mid thirties from a fall downstairs late one night . She left three young children and her DH . Funeral was heartbreaking. It's clearly not a joking matter.

Will catch up with thread now x

good idea to pass on the book to her theala! thank you. no advice from me on running i'm afraid, definitely not my forte

mouse my love - that plate is ever full isn't it? wish there was something i could do to lessen it. please do phone me if and when you want to talk - realise that even that is probably one chore too many at the moment but you know where i am x

i have a friend who reckons sinus problems are a sign of someone getting right on your nerves and you repressing telling them so. make of it what you will

My DH has terrible sinus problems. Oh. :(

:o

theala you will also notice that I'm not giving any excercise related advice no experience of that.