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Had a palm reading the other day and was told I will spend the rest of my days alone..

64 replies

Jazzicatz · 23/11/2011 21:40

I know I should just ignore it but it has really hit me for six. Just keep crying about it as I do believe it to be right. I am being really stupid right?

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CalamityKate · 24/11/2011 00:25

"Friend"? Seriously?

Mynofinkso.

DioneTheDiabolist · 24/11/2011 00:30

OP, that palmist is a nasty piece of work, but you are not being stupid by crying. It sounds as though you are feeling lonely and bit vulnerable at the minute, so go ahead and cry your eyes out. It will do you good. However, do not give a bit of credence to what was said. You are the person who decides how you will spend the rest of your days, not some random stranger.

Tethersend Did you sue? I would!Grin

squeakytoy · 24/11/2011 00:36

The logical, sensible bit of my brain tells me that palm reading is a crock of shite...

I can still never forget the woman who was the mother of one of my schoolfriends who "read my palm" when I was 17. She was of romany descent and was "known to have the gift" Hmm.. I didnt ask her to do it either, it just happened on a xmas night out...

She told me she couldnt see me having children, or marrying the man I was with. (I had just got engaged, so this didnt exactly please me, but she had no agenda), and she also told me a couple of other things that she couldnt possibly have had any previous info about.

She was right though.

It was probably all co-incidence, but it has always freaked me out.

BertieBotts · 24/11/2011 00:46

I do actually believe in this kind of thing to an extent, but that sounds bollocks to me. For one thing it's never that clear cut. "The future" relies on so many variables, many of which you are in control of.

If you want to take something from it perhaps something about reclaiming your singleness? (I assume you are single? If not then even more Shock!)

EightiesChick · 24/11/2011 00:50

squeakytoy On the not marrying the man you were with then, it seems like a likely bet to say that to most 17 year olds, even if engaged. So yes, probably coincidence. Depends on how specific the other things were and how certain that she couldn't have known - on some of the debunking programmes I've seen, the person has been adamant that their reader could not have known A, B or C about them, and the reader has confided to the camera that they either did know through some secret source or were able to work some of it out and guess the rest on the basis of the person's reaction when they started down that line of inquiry, IYSWIM.

squeakytoy · 24/11/2011 00:51

I agree Bertie. I dont think it could ever be that precise.

LeBOF · 24/11/2011 01:14

Crock of shit- read Derren Brown's 'Tricks Of The Mind', or the recent exposé of Sally Morgan in the press to see the mixture of cold and hot reading techniques that these people employ. In your case, the supposed friend is being fucking nasty, and using the bunkum of palmistry to aim a low blow of some pretty heavy passive-aggression.

squeakytoy · 24/11/2011 01:19

See this is where I get mixed views. I have no illusions about the cold reading shite... and dont for a minute believe anyone who makes money out of their supposed abilities. But something in me just cant rule out the possibility that there is something that some people can see.

Maybe it stems from personal experience... (long story, but a very very freaky couple of real life incidents that have completely convinced me that there is something other than this life, and believe me, I am the most sceptical cynic you could ever meet).

LeBOF · 24/11/2011 01:30

But even if there is a Heaven which souls pass on to, what makes them able to see the future? And if they can, why do they usually have nothing more to impart than that Uncle John should be more careful with his glasses?

Barreal · 24/11/2011 02:02

That's no friend.

Gerispice · 24/11/2011 02:11

I am from New Zealand and was devastated when a fortune teller went on national TV to say that the All Blacks wouldn't win the Rugby World Cup...well they did win...so I wouldn't believe everything you hear.

izzywhizzyspecanpie · 24/11/2011 02:14

Unfortunately I don't know how to make nice tiny tidy little links but take a look at this site and have a go at reading your palm yourself: www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=palmistry&source=web&cd=8&ved=0CFwQFjAH&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.creativeinc.co.uk%2Fpalmistry_guide.html&ei=XabNTq7GCs258gPSg9DwDw&usg=AFQjCNE6feph9957hVpQCymnOUoroG0R0Q&cad=rja

And please note the sentence on the first page that reads
It is important to note that the lines of the hand can change, for better or for worse. Nothing is set in stone and we have free will to change our future. Life is what we make it.

izzywhizzyspecanpie · 24/11/2011 02:17

Fond memories of Paul the Pyschic Octupus, gerispce. When it came to sporting events, he always got it right.

Hope you're swimming in octopussy heaven, sweet Paul.

Bromdad · 24/11/2011 05:02

As someone who teaches Science to kids every day I would use strong words even to them to describe how totally bollocks all this is. What you have discovered is the weird human 'no smoke without fire' type of feeling. It's simply never worth getting involved in any of this crap even just for fun if there is the slightest chance of a negative outcome.

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HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 24/11/2011 07:01

Your 'friend' was trying to hurt you.

The only thing your palm reading can tell you with any accuracy is that you need to find a new friend.

LoveBeingAFirework · 24/11/2011 07:39

What a horrible 'friend'.

The fact is life is what you make it. If you stay in a get upset then she will be right, or be happy and live your life.

Jazzicatz · 24/11/2011 07:54

Thank you for all your replies. I thankfully didn't pay her. It was someone from work and she just took my hand and started a reading.

I suppose it has upset me so much because I always felt I would be alone and she just reinforced it. I have very little contact with my family and my children live with their dad part of the week as I work away.

Anyway, you are all right and I should just ignore her. Thanks again.

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Anniegetyourgun · 24/11/2011 08:22

Am with Squeakytoy on this, strangely enough. I think clairvoyance or whatever you like to call it is possible, at least (although as several people have said, there are too many variables in life to make a fine art of it). Could quote a few quite spooky incidents with my father for a start. I think, were psychic abilities true, a person could use anything - looking at your hand, shuffling cards - to focus their sight; it wouldn't have anything to do with whether palmistry or tarot "worked" but how the practitioner's brain worked. There is and can be no virtue in cards or hands or crystal balls themselves, but the human mind is a wonderful and so far largely uncharted territory so I wouldn't rule the whole lot out. However I do strongly believe that fairground palmists and anyone who charges for their "gift" are simply a crock of the old brown stuff. Additionally friends and family are bound to colour their interpretations by what they know of you so, even if they were ever so psychic (which in the majority of cases, not to put too fine a point upon it, they aren't), they would not be able to properly predict anything about you. So whether you believe in psychic thingies or not, you can be pretty confident about rejecting 99% of it, including the prediction in the OP, which sounds like the biggest load of rubbish ever perpetrated by some twerp who thinks reading a book about foretelling the future is, well, not fantasy!

Whatever you do, don't change something about your life on the basis of this kind of advice, to prove it either right or wrong; eg turning down a nice man because some old woman in a curtain said it had no long-term future, or marrying an awful bounder just to avoid the terrible fate of being single (which, let me tell you, is by no means the same as "alone" and has quite a lot to recommend it). Do always what is sensible, legal, and appeals to you, in more or less that order, and you can't go far wrong.

Anniegetyourgun · 24/11/2011 08:30

Oh... you're already going to do that. In two short paragraphs. Sorry.

Oh btw, if she were so sensitive to the future, or even to normal human emotions, she could have realised saying stuff like that would upset you and kept her damned mouth shut. It's astonishing how very many weird, delusional people you will come across in the average workplace, apparently quite able to hold down a normal job. If you start listening to all of them you'll get a very strange view of the world.

seriouschanger · 24/11/2011 08:32

Hmm learn to semi read using Izzy's guide read your not friend's palm back and at the end drop in you are going to be very lonely and have no friends Grin

A psychic has a responsibility not to be so blunt/upset and that shows her inexperience and possible nonsense and word things better ie 'you will have to look for love and find it' as it doesn't knock on a lot of peoples doors and that is why these dating sites are making a mint.

Prove her wrong Grin

HardCheese · 24/11/2011 08:54

Don't be upset - this is complete nonsense. My mother, however, believes wholly in such things, and since I was a small child, has been going on about the 'white witch' she saw twice when she was pregnant with me 40 years ago, and the uncannily accurate predictions she made. To cut a long story short, rummaging through an old bag of family documents when I was visiting my parents recently, we found the notes my aunt had taken of those two 'readings' from the supposed uncannly accurate 'witch' - it won't surprise you (but hopefully will reassure) that, other than having accurately guessed the colour of my father's hair, my mother's marital status (heavily pregnant and wearing a wedding ring) and that her first child would be a girl (50/50), there's nothing at all accurate in relation to the subsequent 40 years.

Wrong number and sex of children, wrong job, wrong predictions about children's careers, travel, illnesses, deaths, etc etc. (Some hilariously wrong mad bits, like that my mother would write a 'racy' Mills and Boon type novel - my mother left school at 13 and has significant literacy difficulties.) My mother had magnified her few 'right' guesses and forgotten all the wrong ones.

I also had my Tarot cards read in my mid-twenties at a particularly low point in my life and was informed (in response to my very specific questions) that I had finished with my education, would never travel again for anything other than a short holiday, would move in with my boyfriend and get pregnant within the year, and would start a business with him. By the following September, I had started a doctorate abroad, and have lived in four different foreign countries longterm since then, have only just got pregnant for the first time fifteen years later, and have never owned or worked for a business of any kind etc.

I agree with whoever recommended Derren Brown's Tricks of the Mind, which is both an amusing read and fun on cold reading techniques. Also look up, as someone else said, interviews with the audience members who heard someone relaying information to Sally Morgan via a microphone.

BertieBotts · 24/11/2011 09:09

I did have a tarot reading for my 19th birthday. The card for January was a stork - she said it was something about new beginnings, I laughed nervously and said "As long as it doesn't mean a baby, then!" and she replied that it could mean a baby but it didn't have to mean that.

I found out I was pregnant that January Shock She also saw through XP within about 5 seconds of meeting him and got his personality spot on Confused

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 24/11/2011 09:13

seriously, how on earth can a line on your hand be related to your future relationships?

Obviously she has hit a sore spot but don't waste an iota of your life worrying it is true.

seriouschanger · 24/11/2011 09:19

ps pro read mine in Sept and said my partner would move in October and we will have a baby...Hmm been single forever! oh and my job...far from what I actually do not that I do it anymore, she couldn't tell me about ex, ds SNs, loss of my brother etc...total nonsense...waste of money:(