Why is that although dh and I really don't get on, when we do actually manage to have a shag, it feels amazing?

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What's that about?? Our relationship is very difficult and really a non-relationship. Consequently we generally used to have sex once every six weeks - most recently there was a gap of three months. However when we do actually become intimate, it is lovely. How is it possible to feel so generally unloved and disliked by someone (dh totally uninterested in me) yet still have good sex??

Your h didn't 'fall into' any trap. After his experience with his first dw, he set out to find an impressionable woman that he could dominate mould. If anything, you fell into his trap.

You've been advised to go see a solicitor who specialises in divorce and family law - and now you MUST act on this advice.

You'll more than likely find that you're empowered by what you're told and will be able to haul yourself out of your god-awful rut, this cycle of abuse interspersed with the odd (and it's odd in more ways than one) silent but comforting shag, and start planning your life as a fully independent adult.

Okay. Thank you. I am going to see a counsellor which is helping me too.