Am I wrong to love my DD more than my DH?

[kimberlina]

I admitted this to DH recently and he was really shocked and offended I think. He maintains that he loves me more than he loves DD. I really hoped that he would love DD more than he loved me. Yes, I know that its a different type of love but I know that if I had to choose then it would be DD without a moments hesitation.

What Jasper said.

My children are in my life, for life. Their father - or rather my partner relationship with their father, as opposed to our co-parenting one - is there by choice, for as long or as little time as we mutually choose. We may go on being together permanently. (This would be OK, he's nice bloke and all.) Or we may not.

But it's my relationship with my children that's permanent. And that has all the potential to become permanently soured as well, over the next few years (DD1 is 10); I don't want to feel that my daughters loathe spending time with me the way I loathe spending time with my own parents. So I'd rather invest a bit of time in them, now.

It is rather a silly comparison because it is an entirely different sort of love. The love for a DC is unconditional ,where the love for DH is conditional.
You can't measure them.
You love your DC knowing that if you do the job well you let go. You give them roots and give them wings and once they are adult you won't come first with them, they will put their own, new, family first.
You have your DCs for a very short time, as the nurturing parent. You have DH long after they have gone. Hopefully they come back to see you both because they want to and you are not burdening them with a millstone of expectations.

troisgarcons
Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh

whaaaat???? Are you serious?

I really don't think that you can expect people however many years BC it was to have the same views as people in 21st century!