What should I do?

[dowhatyouwant]

It was my husband's leaving drinks yesterday. He works in a bank in city.
He didnt come home until 11pm so I txted him ''Why work drinks is that long?'' he said "That's the rule :)" He came home at 12.40. He was very drunk and said I went somewhere in Farringdon to my question where he had been to.
Next day after close questioning he answered he went to O'Neil, APT near his office and Griffins with his colleagues. I looked up on the Interenet and Griffins is a strip pub(bar/club). I was extremely shocked and angry as he'd never been any strip club before. I remember him saying the other day '' I dont go and spend a few hundreds pounds in a strip club like everyone else at work.''

He said he was very drunk and didnt even remember he went there.
As far as I know he's never got drunk until he loses his memory. He said he relaised because he doesnt drink much these days he cant manage drinking as much as before.

Do men have sex if they go to a strip club or do they just watch lap dance? Should I get him to check STI? Actually we did check-up together the day before his leaving drinks! Should I ask him one more time?

And do most men go to a strip club like his said?

Sorry for too many questions please answer if you know any of them..

Name change fail??

Oh right! I see...yes....bit suspect. I hope nobody thinks I am the one who namechanged? I'm a regular!

Definitely a wind up. Bit of pee on his pants!! Ha ha ha

Oh, for Goodness sake! Get a grip! So at his works leaving do, he got drunk and went to a Strip Club! So bloody what!!!!! You must have a serious lack of trust in your marriage if you honestly think you DH shagged a tart there! Apart from the fact that it would have cost him a lot of money - and he would have had to have met her outside the club - do you really think your drunken husband could have been bothered with all this hassle! And he TOLD you what he'd done!!!

You come across as very precious and faintly ridiculous!

sorry what's wind up?

When he came home after work which is 10 mins ago he remembered everything he went there and doesnt remember what he talked with me after coming home last night and he getting home.(what's what he said at frist and i misunderstood he didnt remember everything.) He instited he only had a quick drink and didnt do anything. So I told him to say from the beginning to the end and he said
'I dont want to'. I said ' Dont you feel the responsibility to tell me ?' and he said 'no, i'm sick of it' so we are in the war now.

I don't think English is the OP's first language.

English is not my first language. Please explain 'a wind up' to me

I dont know if pee on underpants was before he went to the toilet after coming home. Very rare but I have pee on my underpants if I go to the toilet when I am in a hurry.

no-one here can give you proof about what your Dh did last night.
And talking about his pants and leaking pee is just a bit weird.

Maryz, I only txted him "Why leaving drink is that long?'' because last leaving drink 4 years ago he didnt come home late like this.
I have never seem him drunk that much without being conscious when he got home. He wouldnt even know he was talking to me at that time.

A couple of people here said it's a wind up for sure so I am going to wait to hear what that means exactly and finish this conversation.

did you post about Disneyland Paris earlier too? (but with English as your first language)

No, I didnt, Dialsmavis

a 'wind up' means a joke, or someone pretending/ creating a fictional problem to get other people involved.

So I created a fictional problem to get all replies here and he didnt have sex? It is a true story and I'm being serious.

Or does it mean he was pretending he didnt have sex? Sorry please crarify for me..

I saw his underpants taken off last night there was no sperm on there apart from a bit of pee. Can this be proof?

Are you normal?

I just wanted a proof and remembered I saw his underpants with a bit pee last night. If he had sex in the strip club there would have sperm on his underpants I guessed

Oh for god sake, he went out for a drink from work, get off your horse. Just because he went to a strip club pissed as a fart does not mean he loves you any less.

Sweetheart, if you are for real, you have an unhealthy level of suspicion about this man. Unless you have justifiable reason to doubt his faithfulness, it is not normal, respectful or ok to pester someone on a night out to come home (barring illness or other emergency) and it is certainly not ok or remotely respectful to examine someone's underwear. You really need to sort it out, jealousy and paranoia will corrode a relationship.

(I'm not saying that you should accept the strip club at all by the way, but that's really a separate issue in my opinion)