How long before you said 'I love you'?

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What would most of you think is a 'reasonable' (for want of a better less cynical word) time before those words are uttered?

SH said it to me after two weeks. I kept him waiting longer .

DH. I dread to think what "S"H might stand for.

Hmmm..I did wonder...

what is it?

I'd think about 6 months, you can't really know someone enough to love them before that time (in non exceptional, we all know a couple who said it in first week type of way).
Any longer than about 9-12 months I'd be getting nervous.

Second husband?

5 weeks :$

Straight away for us - we knew we were made for each other

A reasonable amount of time is how ever long it takes until you genuinely love someone.

I loved DH after 2 months. He didn't tell me until 5 months but I knew he loved me a lot earlier than he told me .

About 2 weeks b4 i told her. knew after 2 days. Been together 12 years now. happy!

I was told after 2/3 weeks, also kept him waiting longer :o

kunahero - after just two weeks, how did you know it wasn't a crush? what was the difference for you? genuinely interested as it did last.

I'd never told anyone before DH, even when I knew.

He told me after a month, I told him about 10days later

I was 35. I've had crushes and been in lust with people before and just knew this was different.

I had been single for 18 months after 15 yr marriage went bad (exdw had affair) I had booked holiday to Ibiza and met dw at work a few days b4 I went on hols. Still went but spent the entire time thinking about her and when I got home went straight round to her house and told her. Luckily she didnt think I was a nutter. We moved i together the following week and married 10 months later (would have been sooner but divorce hadnt come through).

Now have dd and are really good together.

We have lasted longer than exdw and the affair who married and split acrimoniously earlier this year. what goes around comes around!

15 Years, but we weren't together and it took a further 8 years to until the planets aligned and we could be together. Everything comes to those that wait.

About a month. Like kunahero I was 35 and after years of experience we both just knew. Been together nearly 4 years and no doubts whatsoever.

I told my DH after 12 weeks, he grinned and said "Really? Thanks!" I was mortified and thought our days might be numbered....But he told me he loved me two nights later, and that was eight years ago.

DP told me after 2 weeks, I said it back, I think it was love at first TBH :)

9 months for both of us.

DH told me after 2 weeks of being together. We had known each other for 2 years prior to that and it had been building up to that point iyswim. I think I loved him even when we were just friends.

kunahero, thanks for your story, romance is alive!
But could you be more specific - what was 'different' from all the crushes etc.? Just really interested in male perspective.

I realised that when I was away from her I didnt want to be! With the other lusty crushes they were fun but when they wernt there I didnt mind. Dw is everything I could want in a partner. I learnt from my first marriage the mistakes to avoid and she seemed to think exactly the same way as me. We would talk for hours and hours. We listened to the same music but not everything, we liked similar tv, we liked romantic picnics and walking for miles holding hands, we just clicked (cheesy I know sorry) We are not perfect but where we have 'problems' we talk about them and compromise.
I cant imagine every being without her.
She is a brilliant friend, a wonderful wife, an awesome mother. SHe is my life and I love her more every day. Every grey hair, every wrinkle, every bit of her gets better minute by minute.
Now you can go and throw up!!

I'm not throwing up!:o it's great that you are openly proud of your love. And nice to know that some men are on the same wavelength as women romabtically (so many times we hear that only women can be so loving/devoted with partners).

With the right person - a few weeks - but sometimes it just is never going to happen. You can really like someone for a long time, but for there to be love every box needs to be ticked.

At new year, when we'd been together for four weeks. I love him more every day.