How long before you said 'I love you'?

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What would most of you think is a 'reasonable' (for want of a better less cynical word) time before those words are uttered?

lovely post kunahero this is exactly the kind of love my DP and I have got, to the point we can't stand to be apart, I have tried explaining this on my other thread about moving in together but unfortunately other MN see this as a massive red flag when you claim to love someone that early in a relationship :)

3 months, for both of us.

About 3 months I think. Which was longer than it should've been. He told me much sooner than that but it kind of slipped out and he just went "fuck fuck fuck, I didn't mean to say that". Which was awkward as I thought he was saying he hadn't meant it, when actually he had meant it but hadn't meant to say it. So neither of us said it for ages after that, both assuming the other wasn't really than keen (despite all evidence otherwise).

I get why MN's say it can be a red flag. It is very typical of players and those whom are possessive to declare love early on. Some men know that the more needy type of women will fall for words. But this of course doesnt apply to ALL men, or all women for that matter.

I dont personally believe you can actually be in love after a very short time together. I see two different loves...the love that comes from the sheer happiness of being with someone you cant stop thinking about, enjoy each others company and have great sex with....and the REAL love...that comes after you have seen each other at the worst, when everything hasnt been all rosy and violins. That cant come as quickly as a few months.

2 or 3 weeks for us... Been together 4.5 years and have one DD. :)

More vomit inducing-ness.....

Me and DP said it on first night we started seeing each other, I knew he had fancied me for ages and I had felt the same way. We have an amazing chemistry and are deeply in love. We have a beautiful one year old boy. I know we will be together forever.

5 days. I knew, however, he was 'the one' pretty much at first sight. He said it first, mind...

DirtyDawg, It might be something to do with the fact that you have an 18mnth old DS and are wanting to move a man you hadn't laid eyes on until 6 weeks ago, into your home with your young DS and you, knowing your b/f will be forfeiting his room in a shared house to move in with you and you have an 18month old DS and have only known of yr b/f's existence for 6 weeks!!

Perhaps you have found kindred spirits on here who moved strangers into their houses after 6 weeks when they had young DC. In that case, you might find the responses you're looking for...the ones where posters think it's actually a genius idea

Well as I said earlier, he declared after 2 weeks of meeting. I said it after 6 weeks. We've hemmed together 14 years, and married for most of that.

I can't remember At a guess around 2 weeks. (2 weeks from our first kiss, we'd been friends a lot longer.) I think he said it first and I held off for a few days. This was a new concept to me! But I wanted it to be when I really meant it.

DP can't remember either so that's okay

About 3/4 weeks. I was 32, DH 35. He'd been married, I'd been in a long term relationship. We knew what we wanted. Agree with stayforappledunking about different types of love but isn't that nature of relationships? Love does change. The love I have for SH now after a Ds and marriage is different but no less.