In which my sociopathic ex gets a new girlfriend and I can't stop laughing

[NeedABrew]

I've posted about him before, sociopathic tendencies etc etc. He's got a new girlfriend, and thus I'm not in receipt of text messages, phone calls and such like.

Anyway, the girlfriend of a week, is a devout Christian. Nothing wrong with that. But now he has found God, is reading the Bible, and the man who used to wank obsessively over porn and with whom I had a very active and varied sex life with has announced he's given up sex. Part of me thinks good for him, hope it works out etc. The other cannot stop laughing about it. Feel free to judge me.

Thanks for your responses everyone. I do acknowledge I'm not entirely 'over' this situation - not because I want him back, because this time, I chose not to be with him, which I know is a sensible decision, as I needed to save myself. As anyone who has been involved with someone like this will know, it's quite stressful coming to terms with the fact that I got involved with someone like this, how abusive he was etc.

bellsring I do worry it is an alter ego and that I haven't heard the last of him.

hissy I have recently started seeing a lovely, lovely man, but it's very early days. He knows what a shit this bloke was, only too well as, erm, he is 'friends' with him, and has been there for me towards the end (they were mates, still in the same circle, but has also realised that he's not quite right). Obviously, not a conventional situation, but muttering 'oh, that's good to know', while my inside voice said 'haha I already I am and it is GOOD'. (Not why I'm doing it, we have been seeing each other despite the connection)

Yes, AF, but that is a WHOLE OTHER THREAD

Just to clarify: All religions are fundamentally toxic, woman-hating shit. And an abusive man who 'gets religion' will just become abusive in a different way. And he'll have the back up of a whole crew of woman-hating arseholes who have found that having an imaginary friend who they claim built women as men's servants and property is a great way to hate women and get away with it.

Sadly I know of someone who was brought up in a born-again Christian family, where religion was used as an instrument of abuse. Therefore in my book the family was not truly Christian. But it is worrying and sad that a religion of love can be perverted like that.

Just poppinf in to second SGVB. Well said.

Poor woman - he's going to do a right number on her too.

Agree with SGB - but at least it wont be your problem!!

popping - obviously.

I guess a sociopath is going to look for an easy victim, I guess the devoutly religious would look like gullible targets?
Perhaps he'll turn himself into some sort of guru figure?

NAB, breathing a sigh of relief for you that he has an official new target, thus dismissing you.

Just as an aside, not meaning to offend anyone,
Have you ever looked up narcissism in churches? Interesting reading. He probably feels like he has 'come home' at last. Sorry for the new gal though. Hopefully she isn't an obedient sheep type of person.

What SGB said the first time, & second time. Love your 'imaginary friend' line and shared it with my teen dd ages ago-it is so true-imho, faith or not.

The twat's reading the Bible, you say? Seems to me he'll feel right at home with all of the begatting, adultery, idolatry, smiting, and fornication that goes on in the Good Book.

I'll take a sinner over a saint any day, and I'll also stand by my view that any 'believer' who has such little faith in their chosen or professed religion that they cannot withstand criticism, insult, or mockery, are best advised to place their belief in a more worthwhile cause or institution.

Judge not lest ye be judged gives me the perfect excuse not to judge you, OP, and I'm therefore laughing along with you at the thought that if the twat becomes a truly born again Christian of the clap happy persuasion and chooses to marry, he will be making his vows 'until death do us part or Jesus returns' which suggests that maybe there'll be pampas grass in JC's front garden on his next visit to this realm.

Judge not lest ye be judged

well that's a bit rich, considering you've done a lot of judging in your post izzy. imo you are getting God and religion mixed up - they aren't the same, nothing like, nowhere near, never the twain etc.

Thus saith someone who is a christian and has suffered horrific abuse from someone who never overcame (not that he particularly wanted to) his abusive and terrifying way of relating and used religion to oppress, control and destroy. Like many people, I'm not a fan of religion and I think I'm on a safe bet to say God loathes it too, being as it can (and often does) completely and entirely misrepresent who he is.

So mr psycho may meet the actual God and sidestep revolting religion - it's a tight squeeze, but possible.

the ACTUAL god springdaffs!!
wow are you personally acquainted with him/her/it and is he/she/it animal, vegetable, mineral, fungal or something completely different?
I'd love to know:)

What SGB said. I'man equal opportunity atheist, happy yo slag off any and all religions as equally silly. But I think we've had that thread before many times.

Ack spelling!

Hmmm, a bit unpleasant to find it funny that this nasty piece of work will work his evil on another woman.

I really don't mean that aspect of it proudnscary, it's his personality transplant I'm mocking. Sadly, he's good looking and charming, so would reel someone in sooner or later.

NAB

never mind him

really

give your new man a cuddle, and thank your lucky stars you don't have to deal with the twat again

calling someone a jesus freak just because they are a christian is an insult, not an opinion.

You sound pretty over him to me! I would have laughed too, if only for his setting you free in a starbucks que and allowing you to date other people! What a knob!

OP, he hasn't had a personality transplant - he's just trying to RE-INVENT himself.

i second springydaffs

and OP, you are well rid

Calling somebody a 'fucking Jesus Freak' is really insulting. Why do you feel the need?

(Rhetorical question btw...I've got no interest in finding out why you're so rude.)

And LOL at all the people jumping in to defend your right to insult people.

Because superstitions merit no respect, that's why. There is an unhealthy tendency to expect special privileges for people's imaginary friends when in fact superstition is nearly always harmful - and a magnet to arseholes like the OP's XP.