logging my movements

[gracehedley]

Have initiated divorce proceedings, H would rather it didn't happen and very resentful/unhappy/motivated by revenge. Usual wranglings over money and care of our child ... turns out he has been keeping a record of every time I have been out socially for the last year at least, in an effort to prove I am irresponsible/negligent mother and therefore our son (age 6) should not live with me. I have been going out with friends one or two evenings a week and also keen runner so maybe 3 times a week running also - all recorded on his spreadsheet ... would this carry any weight - I mean would solicitors/courts etc take notice of this? Completely alarmed he when he told me about it. He has no social life really so the difference between us is very marked. All comments and advice welcomed

Yes OP, forget the 'emotional' aspect, if he is demanding money so he doesn't seek custody and try to paint you as a terrible mother that is straightforward blackmail and an actual crime.

My ex did similar - I was at college 2 nights a week and saw friends 2 nights a week. He had it all written down in a little book. What time I'd gone out, when I came in.... He brought out this revelation in court (I had no idea it existed) and, when he realised that it wasn't going to hold any sway he told the court I had brainwashed our ds, was on the game and dealing drugs.

Trust me OP, I swear the Magistrates nearly wet themselves laughing. We split because he was abusive and controlling...he proved my point all by himself

He sounds like a cock. Pay no attention to the ridiculous spreadsheets.
I thought Fabby must have been joking. 15????? Shurely cannot be sherioush??

Can you get him to write down about the money in exchange for full custody. Other than the spreadsheet which will make him look a dick that would go a long way in your favour. And don't worry about going out. I behaved quite badly during divorce going out a lot etc and judge said if he had been married to XH he would have gone out a lot too. He also told XH that it wasn't called babysitting if you were looking after your own l
Kid.

"I behaved quite badly during divorce going out a lot etc and judge said if he had been married to XH he would have gone out a lot too. He also told XH that it wasn't called babysitting if you were looking after your own l
Kid"

Haha judges can be very witty at times.

I think that Judge had it right - parenting isn't the sole responsibility of the mother...despite it being 2011 there are still people (even women) who believe that your social life should stop as soon as you get a positive result. The rest of us are normal!