Just read a bit of DH's history...

[MadFool]

I have just read a newspaper report of an incident from a few years back prior to me getting together with my dh.

Apparently he assaulted a female - I think it was an ex and had been charged with common assault. This was after he had killed a kitten, banned from keeping animals for five years.

We have been married a few years with one dd.

He had told me that he had drunkenly assaulted a male outside a pub - liar!

I feel sick to me stomach, and just needed to tell someone. What do I do?

Are you ok OP? Did you ask him about it?

I would be horrified in your shoes too. Could your in-laws or your DH's friends shed any light on what happened and what else was going on at the time - drink, drugs, MH problems? Though I struggle to think what could "excuse" the kitten thing :(

I hope you've got lots of RL support, this must be horrible.

Just to clarify, I am not an apologist for violence or animal cruelty, but I know a few people who had serious MH/substance abuse problems who have done things totally at odds with their characters (one guy actually murdered someone!) but now that they are well/sober they are as good/trustworthy as anyone.

I am also not suggesting that people with MH issues are violent or cruel to animals! Just that I know some people who behaved violently during breakdowns/psychosis etc. due to their illness and not their intrinsic makeup.

why do these threads always end up with someone ranting about how we all tell women to leave their partners? Sometimes I wonder if people start these threads to somehow prove a theory they have about mumsnetters.

I would definitely leave DP if I ever discovered something like this about his past. No excuses.

why do these threads always end up with someone ranting about how we all tell women to leave their partners?

Because society has a vested interest in women continuing to put up and shut up, and that interest is enforced in myriad ways, including twitchiness about women with deeply inadequate partners being freely told to "leave the bastard!"

...but that may be a discussion for another thread.

the ops says he is "verbally aggressive, and does lose his temper"

that is why his past is relevant to the present. the verbally agressive bit. maybe only a matter of time before he loses it again.

if she had nothing negative to say - well would be different wouldnt it?

Buzz - have you heard/seen any news today? Stranger things have happened as they say.

Oh god, is it bad that the last line of that article made me lol?

Back on thread topic, I did try a Google news search with the info in the OP, and I am sad to report that there are a LOT of sickos who are banned from owning animals for 5 years after various acts of torture, cruelty, and killing on theirs and others' pets.

Puppy - thing is, the woman took the cat out of revenge, a scorned woman as it were, the twat- MP in question said when asked on the Radio 'Don't you find this all a bit embarrassing?' that 'Er, well, yes I do but I'm not hiding, I'm out here facing the public, I have nothing to hide' or words to that effect.

But killing an animal because he could? Sick.

Also the fact that the OP claims that he's a great father, never raises his voice to the child is a massive red flag. Men are often superb fathers, never ever shout, get cross, raise a hand to their children. It can't always be said for the mother though, can it?

It would appear that the OP needs to find out what's actually going on. If the press cutting/article is to be believed then she has a fair bit to be worrying about. He lied for a start. He assaulted a woman and was arrested and charged with common assault.

I'd like to know the rest of the story and bet that the woman in question is the one behind the 'tip-off'

I don't understand, mouseface, why's your post directed to me? If it's in response to the one where I said 'who does that?' - I meant it more in a horrified way than in a naively not realising people hurt animals way. The answer would, of course, be utter shits.

Come back OP we all want to know what happened x

No Buzz - not in a bad way, not at all, sorry lovely, not trying to make you look twatish.

What I meant is that people pull these kind of stunts all the time using innocent 'victims', in this case a cat, to hurt the people they profess to love.

It's bang out of order.

Sorry Buzz