MIXED Signals!!

[jen45]

Im married but unhappy and not in love. I met a man in a shop where i work and we swapped phone numbers. he came to visit me and within mins asked me for sex..I got freaked and said no. He came to visit again after i called him to say sorry. this time i came on to him but he freaked out!!..now he avoids me and wont come into the shop...Help whats happened. I really like this guy.

Please put me out of my misery - is it the mystery shopper you are hung up on or have you found another candidate for your sexual favours?

It sounds as if it's about time you broke the habit of living with your h so that you can be free to take advantage of whatever sexual opportunities come your way - unless, of course, you have negotiated an open marriage where you are both free to play away.

Do you have children to consider or, apart from your marriage of convenience, are you a free agent?

mystery shopper is the one i want. not interested in just getting my leg over. if this was the case, i think i would have had sex with men all thru my marriage. all kids are grown and flown the nest.

what goes around comes around....yes its just happened to my hubby!!

just leave your husband, be friends with him when your divorced, he clearly still wants to still be with you (putting aside all his previous cheatings) but you do not, so leave him then you can both put this behind you, and move on in life.

you are a puzzle

no puzzle really.....ive fell out of love with hubby some time ago and this has been more clear by the fact ive fallen for someone else. yes i am planning to tell him we need to split...

But, OP - is there more you're not telling us to the 'relationship' with the shopper who got your phone number and asked you for sex within a few minutes of walking into your shop? Because at the moment it doesn't sound anything like a relationship, it sounds like a sex pest who propositioned a shop assistant and ran away when it became obvious she was an actual person with needs of her own! It just sounds like a sleazy encounter - is there some reason why you seem to be suggesting it is more than that? Do you actually know this man?

Christ on a fucking bike with bells on it!

When you are in an unhappy marriage, you 'fall' easily for attention. Its not love! Its the want/need to feel attractive and special to someone else. Trust me I have been there and its no fun when you discover the chap you 'fell' for saw a vulnerable person that would be easily talked into bed. He asked for sex within minutes?! And you apologised for not?! Talk about eating into the palm of his hand, get yourself some respect. You arent in love with your husband. Leave. Be alone. Going from one relationship straight into another rarely works out.

I was under the impression that the mystery shopper rejected your revised offer of a shag and no longer visits your shop.

Are you convinced that this is because he is far too 'decent' to do the dirty while you remain married or living with your h, or could it be that he's simply not into you and is continuing to collect the phone numbers of other female shopworkers while he browses the goods on display, so to speak?

My concern is that in hoping that you'll have more than a one night stand with the mystery shopper, you are in fact hoping to find a man with a home you can move into which will give you the impetus to kiss off your h goodbye.

Living with a serial adulterer can knock the confidence out of the strongest women. Why not set up home alone before you think about embroiling yourself in another relationship?

You've been trumped APF - dunking's Christ has got bells on his bike [hgrin]

Wanna make yours a tandem? [hwink]

mine is a tandem with a sidecar on it

with flashinglights, sirens and horns

So yours has got room for the Father, Holy Ghost and Mary APF?

Unless you can come up with a Jag, dunking, APF's won - yet again [hgrin]

I have room for the twelve disciples too

and their kids

I think the 3 wise (wo)men are needed here too.. to talk some sense into the OP...

They've been and gone, squeaky.

We need a miracle now... of Lazarus proportions.

let them drink wine ...and break bread

am I mixing my metaphors ?

Loaves & fishes to go with the anyone? It's a relief that he He did something for the meek at long last.

I'm off to don my beard and go buy some rocks for the stoning.

You'd only have mixed them if you'd said let them eat cake, APF.

did someone mention cake ?? [hhmm]

Blueberry muffin do you? They're fresh out of the oven... and have another while you're waiting for them to cool down a bit.

FPMSL @ you lot and your superbikes.

JC's the superstar and now he's got a supertandem bike with bells on &flashinglights,sirens&horns Scarah [hgrin]

izzy you are a cruel and sadistic person

[hbush] Why, thank you most kindly, APF. I've long striven to attain your own renowned high standards and I'm flattered beyond belief that you've seen fit to praise my humble efforts [hgrin]