right ive been seeing a new man for nearly 4 months... going really well spend a lot of time together prob 4 days a week. he met my kids after 3 months and they took to him (first man they have met since their dad and i split 2 yrs ago) we booked a holiday for december (his idea) and have had weekends away for weddings (his friends) i have also met his 2 children.. (which when she found out about it she stopped him seeing them and served him divorce papers)
on sat he got a call from his ex saying she had seen a pic of us together on facebook (she hacked into his account to see this) and that she thought she wanted him back, they have been split for 18mths after she kicked him out,
so basically now he is confused, wants time to think. said he doesnt want to go back to her but wants to be 100% about me!
so basically i have told him that im not happy to wait, that i deserve someone that wants me and my kids...
so on monday night he came to mine telling me he wanted me and all he had been worried about was how it had made me feel (saying all the right things) and hoping he hadnt messed us up, i replied it doesnt have to mess us up but if you want me you tell your ex!
so tuesday morning i get loads of nice messages then one asking what time he can come round, i replied "i would love to see you, but for my own sanity i think i need to wait till you have told your ex its over"
then an hour later i get a message saying sorry i cant do this, u say i cant see you till ive hold her and i dont know when that will be!
so basically i dont know what the flipping hell is going on.. he wants me to wait whilst he decides which of us he wants,
when i said to him im not prepared to wait and that i hope it works out for them and that they can both be happy! but i think he made the wrong decision he said i think your right. he said " i think im making a mistake letting u go like this... but at the moment i dont want that i just want some time... im not going back to my ex !" he keeps saying please give me time.. but i dont want to wait for him to tell me he has chosen her!
sorry that was long.. any advice greatly received