My boyfriend and I argued and he walked out, but my period is late.

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I'm totally stressed. My boyfriend and I had an argument last Sunday and he walked out saying that he had enough. I have been calling him all week but have had no response to either say he needs space, it's over or anything. I don't know where I stand. I'm pretty sure that he will contact me again once he has calmed down - do men confirm the break up? or do they just ignore you and silence is the confirmation?

Anyway, my period was due a few days ago, it's usually like clockwork but it's late. I've not taken a test yet as i'm hoping the delay is just stress but i have many of symptoms and am shitting myself. I don't know what to do. Do I contact him again? I cannot tell anyone.

I got my period - a week late and very heavy.

I'm too scared to text him in case he ignores it again. Not sure what to do.

You must be relieved ...one less stress for you

I always find if im unsure about what to do , doing nothing until im sure is probably the best thing.

Are you feeling better about things now ?

It must be a relief you are not pregnant. I think you should assume it's over and move on. He doesn't seem like a nice boyfriend or partner - the punishing silences, sulking, non-communication all sound horrible and not something anyone should tolerate.

Can you pack up his stuff and give it to a friend to pass on to him? Not sure about getting your own things back - are they things you really need?

Oh FGS don't text him. You tried for 4 days - take it as it's over.

Really, even if he came back now I'd recommend strongly that you don't take him back - a guy who will walk out, huff on you and go silent for days and days is not a good prospect, is not a good guy. If you did have him back, he'd think he could treat you anyway he liked and you'd suck it up.

If he did come back, the only way it'd be a good idea would be if he was crawling and had a good excuse for incommunicado fuckwittery, such as he was in a fucking coma.

Thanks for the supportive messages. I'm being pathetic because I know that I was wrong for many of the things that caused the arguments.

But you are right, this is not a good sign. I've made excuses for him because he is really stressed with work and he was pissed off that I didn't trust him - he thought that I was always checking up on him and trying to catch him out ( which is true to a certain extent. He is so closed and private that I could never really work him out until I spoke to his mum - he said that he had been like that since he was a child.

I think i'm just going to send him a note saying that i've assumed it's over can we sort out returning our things so that we can both move on.

My friends are telling me to give him space and let him calm down but I just want to know what is happening so that I can have closure and move on.

I'm wondering if i should call his mum, maybe i'm the only one that knows it's not over! :)

The sad thing is that he was a really good boyfriend until this happened. Very caring and supportive and loving.

Don't do that! You make it clear it is over as if you have decided it. Not "you are assuming" as that gives him a way back in to be a dickhead.

Walking out on you and giving you the silent treatment and sulking is not 'caring and supportive and loving'. You deserve much better. If he is so closed and private that you felt the need to check up on him he doesn't sound an ideal partner.