bf can't get used to the idea of having a baby?

[bayy17]

The first point when I found out I was pregnant I told him he beat me badly and sid I wouldn't be for long. He beat me because he didn't want the baby not because he was angry at me. To a point I wanted him to because I didn't want it. I met up soon after with a pro-life resource center and I guess it really got to me. So I decided maybe I didn't want to. Later found out half the side effects weren't actually as obvious as they said. Anyway I stayed pregnant. Finally I left him because he seemed more upset about the pregnancy seemed I thought he just needed time away and it aggravated him. I've finally decided to go home. This is states away and he keeps harassing me telling me I need to abort. It's like he doesn't even care about our relationship or want to be with me. My parents said they'd pay for an abortion if I wanted. I want us to be a happy family. I don't want this to bring us on bad terms ut I feel like it should be him changes. But I feel like it's only getting worst and now I'm 16 wks. I just feel like why can't he accept things the way they are? I don't know what to do. I feel like anything I'll do will ruin us. I thought leaving him to think about it would make things better but it's only gotten worst. And I'm feeling as though I'm the one who's selfish and inconsiderate. Btw we're both young 19 and 20 but I don't think he hates me just the baby. I don't see why he can't live us both. But I love him. And don't people sacrifice for the ones they love. Yet I just cry and cry about everything either way it seems. Advice?

honey, you musn't let anyone beat you. It's not right to let someone beat you for any reason.

If you don't want your baby, please see a doctor soon. If you do want your baby, you must protect it. Your BF is not protecting you or baby so you must not see him because he will hurt you and your baby.

You can bring up the baby on your own and find help from people who love you. People who love you would not beat or hurt you. please look after yourself.

I think you should consider adoption. You're nowhere near ready to bd a parent and your boyfriend should not be a father.

Anyone who would consider allowing themselves to be beaten in order to induce a miscarriage should not be a parent. Anyone who would beat up another person to cause a miscarriage equally should not be anywhere around a baby.

I dread to think what this poor baby's life will be like if they stay with parents like you two.

OP if you're in Vegas, can you pm me to let me know. I have a friend who has some good contacts there who can help. I won't confirm your location on the boards. Hope you're ok today.

You are justifying him beating you up by saying you didn't want the baby anyway? WTAF? He's an abuser. He has no right to assault you, ever. He doesn't want to be a father and you cannot make him be one. He would not be a good father and I'd question whether you can be a good mother at this stage - if you cannot see what is abuse. You cannot allow a child to be exposed to abuse of this nature and if you are unable to identify abuse then you cannot be trusted to protect a child from it. You have three options

• terminate (quickly)
• give child for adoption
• raise child alone.

Trying to raise a child with an abusive man who resents it is bad for you and a disaster for the child.

I don't know how it is in Nevada, but I rather thought the decent, loving thing to do if you find out your girlfriend is pregnant with a baby neither of you want is to escort her to a family planning clinic. Out of state if necessary. That's where trained medical staff, having counselled you to ensure it's what you really want, remove the pregnancy with minimal risk and pain to its mother. And they don't even know you. But they care enough about a total stranger to do it gently.

Is beating you a sign of caring in some parallel universe?!

If he can beat you up , then he will do this to your child... get as far away from him as you can