Will it ever happen?

[fragglerocks]

I'm nearly 28 and separated from XDH 7 months ago. There is NO chance of us getting back together. I definitely think we made the right decision now, at the time I was devastated but now I'm feeling good about things. I've always wanted to have children and want to be in a steady and stable relationship before I do so.
I know I'm just feeling sorry for myself but I can't help but wonder if I'm going to end up old and single with 20 cats smelling of wee and cabbage!!
I have started going to the gym and have a stressful job with long hours so don't have a huge amount of free time, I feel like everyone I know is married with kids. Where am I ever going to meet anyone!?
Am I ever going to meet the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and have a life together and have children and live happily ever after??

Of course you will! 28 is young. You should join in with the internet dating thread. They sound like they are having a great time and make me wish I was single again.

You are definitely young. I had a horrendous 1st marriage which ended when I was 30, and met my lovely DH at 35.

You will be okay :)

You are a spring chicken! At 28 I was partying every weekend, without a thought for marriage and kids Then met DH at 32, married the following year, had two lovely children.

Enjoy your twenties and your freedom. Neither come back.

Time's on your side!

You do need to get some sort of balance between work and socialising. Get your friends to set you up, maybe?

And what Cote said.

7 months on your own is nowhere near enough to justify imagining yourself eaten by cats. Shame on you OP!

I would love to have lots of time to go to the gym. I bet you're well buff

I think it's just because everyone I know seems to be settled down and I'm having a silly panic!! Also think I might be too picky, I'm looking for someone who is perfect personality wise, with a rugby players body and the face of Damian Lewis! Do you think it will happen!? (please say it will, please say it will!)
Oh and I'm definitely not buff!! went from a size 12/14 up to a size 20 when I was married, slowly getting back down in size, now I'm 16/18 so woohoo for that!!
Thank you for your lovely words, making me feel less sorry for myself!

It will happen. And never stop being picky- being picky is good. Enjoy all the benefits of being single and being your own person, and only give it up (grudgingly!) when you meet a man who makes it worth giving up.

I was with my ex for 7yrs, split up when I was 27, spent a wonderful 18mths single- did loads of things I had always wanted to, enjoyed being completely selfish, seeing friends, doing my own thing, then met DH. He was a one-night thing which went wrong (or right, depending on how you look at it ) But I "dated" lots of guys in between, nothing ever serious, very innocent and casual.

So not only will it happen, you will have a wonderful time in the interim- have fun!

fraggle - You are perfectly reasonable to expect the best

Well done for losing weight. You are already going to the gym, now time to start running! Seriously, it is the best exercise both for your body and your mind. In a matter or weeks, not only will you start slimming like you won't believe, but also you won't even care because you will feel so good anyway.

Funny you say that cote because I'm planning on going for a run tomorrow morning, first time in years. I'm taking the dog with me for moral support

I'm looking for the same as you :o Well if we don't try it's not gonna happen is it. And it's good to know what you definitely don't want at least

Join us HERE if you are thinking of dipping a toe (or more) in the dating world.

fraggle - If you just go for a run, it will be over in only a few minutes and you will hate it. Instead, follow this program religiously and you will love it. Oh and, join MN's Couch to 5K thread to gloat about your achievements

I'm going to be following the couch to 5k program, my brothers a runner and told me it was a good one to do, I'm excited now, I'll have to let you know how I get on!

Ah, just realized that I didn't properly link to BUPA's 5K training program.

Definitely do it. I started running after my second baby, aged almost 39. I lost 10 kgs in 3 months and went from a size 42 to a size 38 (can't be bothered to find UK equivalents, sorry). I'm now 40 and still a size 38. I run 5k 2-3 times a week and love it! My tummy was hanging so badly that people thought I was 5-6 months pregnant and i was advised at hospital that I might need surgery because muscles looked like they had just let go after second pregnancy. I started wearing bikinis six months after starting running. Take that, doctors

At 28 you have got plenty of time yet!!

I was 32 when I met the bloke who I married a year later, and have been married to for nearly ten years. :)

Just got back from my run and feel great! I didn't die from running, it's a revelation!!
I have decided that if I concentrate on making myself happy and feeling good about myself then hopefully the man/family thing will eventually follow.
Got to love those endorphins

Congrats, fraggle Keep it up three days a week according to the BUPA program and those endorphins will keep you on a perpetual high and the weight will fall off you.

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come back here in 3 years time and ask the same question, ok ?

You've got a dog???!!! Wow, you don't even have to borrow one! You're bound to meet a caring man who's walking/running with his dear canine.

If you want him to look like Damian Lewis with a rugby player's body, Cosmic Ordering's the way to go - but do make sure to specify height as its a faf buying stilts for a pocket-size version [hgrin]

What is cosmic ordering!? Sounds like something I need to do!

FWIW, I'm 34 and this year I met the guy I know I'm going to be with forever. He was nearly 40 when we met and was on the verge of giving up himself! So chin up, it can definitely happen. 28 seems so young to me now, although I remember feeling old at the time ;-)

Sorry to hijack - CoteDAzur how fit were you when you started this? Would love to try it, but suspect I might be dead by the end of the first week......I'm not kidding when I say I'm unfitter than an unfit thing. I'm a sports referee but to say I'm crap at running is putting a very kind spin on it.

If there's a different thread about the running thing, could someone point me in the right direction?

Wished I was 28 and single

You've got bundles of time.

'Cosmic ordering' is a catch-all phrase for what is, essentially, the belief that it is possible to bring about change by 'ordering' what we want.

I've lived with the underlying beliefs of 'cosmic ordering' for many years and all I can say is that, while it may not be for some, it works for me.

I had a quick google to see if I could find a site that explained how 'cosmic ordering' works and this one seems to be as good any:
www.cosmicorderinginfo.com

In fact, I've taken advantage of the 'free dvds' offer to add to my collection of esoteric works. I fully expected that the P&P would be extortionate but it's c$16 which is little more than a tenner, and I was able to pay using PayPal with no need to provide any information about myself.

I'm old and single, smelling of wee and 20 cats! Something missing- just can't put my finger on it. Got it! Smell of cabbage!

Seriously, OP You will feel better eventually with the wonderful help from MN! Look after yourself and take care!