Right, this might get a little graphic, so I apologise in advance:
For about two years, I have been suffering on and off with a bartholian cyst, which is an infection in a gland in the labia. It swells up, is painful, then ruptures, drains, and heals. This is painful and kind of repulsive, and takes about a week from initial infection to rupture, then another week to heal.
The first time it happened, I was terrified, went to the doctor, got antibiotics and was warned it would probably recur. Since then, it has happened about six times, but only once as badly as the first. On this occasion, I went to an emergency doctor, who did not examine me, but prescribed antibiotics. That was a few months ago. It recurred two weeks ago, and this time I went back to the doctor, determined to get it sorted (an opperation to remove the cyst had previously been mentioned)
The doctor examined me, said it didn't look like a bartholian cyst to him, and that it might be herpes. I was too shocked to ask any questions and he didn't elaborate. He has given me antivirals to take.
So what the hell do I do? I have been in a monogamous relationship since before this started happening, my partner has had no symptoms of anything like this, and I know I have not been unfaithful. I am sure (and I know that a lot of people would say this, and not all of them would be right) but I am ABSOLUTELY SURE that my partner has not cheated on me.
Do I tell him? My partner text me to ask how it went at the doctor, and I just said 'fine, more antibiotics' because I didn't know what to tell him. I'm so scared that a) I have a lifelong, unpleasant STD, that will make people treat me like a leper, and b) my OH will think I have cheated on him and dump me. Is there any way I could have got it from him and him not show any symptoms? How long could I have had it? If I've had it for years, why hasn't he got it too (we don't use barrier contraception) How can I find out for sure if I have it? Why wasn't the doctor more informative? I'm really scared and revolted and i just want to cry.
Thanks to anyone who got this far 