Is it really better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?

[ripitupandstartagain]

I'm not convinced.
I feel that once you have had a real connection with someone on many levels, you just click/get each other, the sex is wonderful etc you can't go back to being happy with less.

How sad to think thst lust only lasts 6 months .

It's entirely possible to have a FB with whom one also has a close affectionate friendship (but for whatever reason one knows that a 'proper' couple relationship wouldn't work out). It needn't be cold at all!

I think most of the reason people don't regret their 'loved and lost' relationships is that it's very hard to regret any sort of profound experience, as it makes you the person you are today. I have never been mutually in love with anyone and I am an awful lot happier than my friend who was dumped three years ago and has never got over it.

yes i do think it is

if you had asked me this a few years ago i would have said no. i still miss his friendship, we are still friends but it is not the same, i will always love him (ds daddy) but i know i will love again and someone will love me they way i want them to and he didn't and at times i never thought that would happen and that was what i felt he took from me my belief in myself (he was pretty cruel at times)

But OP, you are coming from the stance that you can only have 1 relationship like that, once that's gone any relationship after has to be less by definition.

Don't agree with that cos I've had several of that calibre, I don't believe the fairy tale stuff about "And they lived happily ever after" (way too old LOL),
I tend to agree with SGB, there's lots of amazing people out there to have a (monogomous) relationship with, I'm grateful for all the ones I've had in my life, so yes for me it's better to have loved and lost - even with the pain, cos you do eventually get over it, (except if they die).

I'd hate to die never having experienced love! (Eros).

ditto re would hate to die never having experienced love. If I didn't love, I would have missed out on so much. Having lost love once in my life, i cant say i regret it. i can appreciate others may think differently depending on their circumstances.