Oh why is life such a bitch at times. I have just stopped crying after falling out big time with my neighbour who is also the childrens godmother. This is what happened. Two years ago when the first grandchild came to visit she borrowed one of my highchairs, I had to get it down from the loft, two days later put it back again, this happened three times in a year. Meanwhile I sold the other two for £8 each, they were in good condition. The next time she asked for the chair I said would she just like to buy it for £8. The very clear answer was "I only want to borrow it not buy it", so she has kept it ever since. 5 weeks ago a young Mum at school asked me if I could sell her some equipment, inc a highchair. So honestly not thinking it was a big deal I sent her a message very nicely, and said did she mind if I had it back as it was needed by a young mum, well 2 days later she stormed down my path, deposited it on the step and said, "theres your chair and you can see what a disgusting condition its in which of course is the condition I recd it in! She stormed off, I was so shocked I never said a word, that was 5 weeks ago tomorrow. She ignored us and the children, her husband came home from sea and he too has not spoken to us, not even to wave to the children when they saw him walk past the house. Anyway today my Mum told me that she had had a call from her wishing her a happy Christmas and told her that they were both coming here tonight to bring the children there presents as they are going away to Scotland tomorrow. So we said, oh well just give them a drink and not say anything. Well she turned up on her own just after we got in from school, handed me two bags and said they were the kids presents, I asked her to please come in and she said no she wouldn`t and that I had upset her more than she could say. So I said what on earth had I done, I only asked for something back that belonged to me, she said, how could you, you never considered my feelings, that I needed that chair for my grandchildren when they come down, (we are talking of no more 4/5 days in a year). So I was livid and said that 2 years ago when she borrowed it she was asked if she would like to buy it for £8 and I was told she only wanted to borrow it not buy it, she turned round to me and said "yes I do only want to borrow it!" So I then said so when you have no more need for it I would have got it back, in the meantime your salary is 3 times more than we have to live on, we have £17000 a year pension with three young kids, we had the chance to sell it and bring in a few pounds towards Christmas! She then said she had had lots of support over this, so I said I would like to know from whom, as, and this is very true, in the 12 years she has lived here she only has two friends, me and one of my friends she has got to know, to which she said, well thats because I choose my friends carefully. I then handed back the bags of presents and shut the door on her. The worst thing is the children were witness to it all, plus my endless tears after she had gone. Maybe I should have accepted their presents, but I just felt that she had no intention of wanting to make amends, she would have felt better by giving the kids their presents and then she would have continued to ignore me. What did I do that was so wrong and unreasonable? I am very upset by this, feel that its such an awful mess over something so trivial, feel sooooooooo angry that she has let me get myself sooooooooo upset and stressed, feel how could she do this to me when she knows how very sad and stressful our lives have been for the last 11 years since my beautiful Matthew died. Oh I feel so so tearful tonight when it started off such a happy day with the kids carol service and one of mine being awarded a cup at school. So sorry to have gone on and butted in on this thread, needed to get it all off my chest.