Dh and I have been married for 10 years and have 2 children 3 and 8 months. Whenever dh gets stressed he takes it out on me an can be quite nasty in the way he speaks to me. I have said that this is not ok but it still happens.
Recently we have both been busy, dh is building an extension to the house. I work 3 days a week, have just started teaching a class once a week trying to set up a small business, I also do a couple of exercise classes in the evening and have just registered on a part time post grad course.
The course runs over weekends and I need to go away once a month to do it. I am away on my registration weekend and dh called me to say everything needs to stop so he can get the extension done or it won't happen. I agrees to stop my classes and to do all drop off and picking up of the children from now on but dh wants me to not do the course either and I don't know what to do. I really want to do it and it is already paid for. My hours at work this year suit the course which might not happen next year and I started teaching my own sessions based on the knowledge that I would be in training again. If I insist on doing it without his support it will be awful, there will be a huge fuss everytime I go and dh says if he loses a weekend on the build then it's fucked and that I need to focus everything on that.
Last night he told me he couldn't stand me anymore and to just fuck off. I love him but things can't go on like this. I feel under huge pressure to make a decision to either push ahead with this course or try and defer if they will let me. I would be devastated to defer but am feeling like I have no choice. He feels I am not supporting him on the build and I feel he does not support my career, he often refers to what I do as a waste of time or calls it shitty.
I am getting the train home today and don't know what to do. Don't think he could even discuss it without getting unpleasant.