I could namechange but the circumstances would out me instantly so I won't bother.
We've just (i.e. last week) emigrated to Australia. DH was over there for 5 weeks before he flew back to the UK for 5 days then we all flew out together as a family.
DH has generally struggled in the past to make friends, but he made loads of friends in Oz, with one name cropping up a lot more often than others.
So, she's a woman, single (just come out of a long term relationship), works with him and about half my weight. DH never seems to shut up about her - he was out drinking with her (and other people as well) almost every other night, ended up at her flat once (apparently "it wasn't like that" and her other flatmates were there too) and was always talking about her. He kept on saying to me that he didn't know how he could have done it without her as he was so lonely and he missed us so much. They have loads in common, me and her would get on really well blah blah blah.
When DH came back to the UK he was really insistent that he wanted to maintain his social life - we agreed to one night a week, but not to have a proper night out until we were a bit more settled (a couple of weeks I figured). I'm ok with this to some extent - it's great that he's got friends that he can chill out with.
I'm just a bit gutted that we've been here 5 days, it's his second day back at work and he's already out drinking with her. Admittedly, not just her, there's another bloke too, but I just get that sinking feeling in my stomach. He's already been out to lunch with her both days he's been back, there's been loads of text messages (all very innocent, he shows me most of them), taking loads of pictures of her (again, innocuous ones).
Apparently she was really looking forwards to meeting me and the kids (we went in to DH's work an hour after landing to meet people) and wants to go out for a drink with me, yet when I met her she virtually blanked me and just talked to DH in semi-code and in-jokes.
So am I being lonely, bored and jealous, or should I bring it up with DH / do something?
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Emotional affair or jealous wife?
Naetha · 20/09/2011 10:00
You need a good conversation with him regarding appropriate boundaries in a relationship, what message he is sending out to this woman and colleagues with this behaviour, what message he is giving you 
. Is he from Australia ? Just thinking about Dee34's thread and Downunderdolly's story. Her H got her to emigrate and promptly left her for an OW - she now has to remain in the country without family or friends to support her due to the Hague Convention.
no nothing disrespectful at all about having your wife calling and texting you asking you to go home and being witnessed to ignore her and stay for another 4 hours at all 
listen to the stepfords - just go and put some sexy underwear on and make him happy.
sorry OP. it just really rattles me that people talk about men and grown up relationships as if it was all some game that you have to win rather than grown ups respecting each other and being good partners and parents. i'll try and sit on my hands now as don't want to derail your thread. i do think you have every right to be angry and it is him who needs a strategy tonight NOT YOU as it is him who has royally fucked up not you.
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