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RingEir · 12/09/2011 17:22

Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck off with yourself.

There. Apologies for the language, but I had to get that out of my system and I think it's better to vent on MN than say it to her face. Or maybe not....

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sqweegiebeckenheim · 13/09/2011 20:49

love the name by the way. My favourite boy's name of all time.

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Stormfromeast · 13/09/2011 21:27

Please stay away from MIL. It will just upset you more.

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MedusaIsHavingABadHairDay · 13/09/2011 22:56

Say it to her face.. it will feel good!
My DS2 has a lifelong learning disability and will never be independent.. and has a fantastic life, and he has enriched our lives more than I can possibly say. I also work with children who have disabilities and have worked with many children who have DS.. who go on to have happy and productive lives.
Congratulations on your son.. he will bring you great joy :)

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RingEir · 14/09/2011 05:38

I suppose I should be more shocked, but I am used to her racist, sexist etc comments that I was not too surprised really. For me it's impossible to take someone like that seriously. She has had very little education, but she is also the type of person who does not want to learn, or ever change her views which basically go back to the Franco era :) Despite this, I think you are all right and that there should be zero tolerance about these comments. It's easy for me to dismiss her her nutty comments, but had a chat with DH about it last night and he is very hurt and angry.

TG she is going though. I was up early yesterday feeding Killian and she came down (just in case I would get an hour to myself) and I had to listen to an hour of nonsense, including that the baby doesn't have DS at all. So now we are in denial. Anyway, he is extremely cute if I say so myself. I never realised how much personality a two-month-old could have :)

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Thumbwitch · 14/09/2011 05:48

She sounds unbelievably ignorant and rude, tbh. I would have had a hard time letting her stay in the house any longer after that DS crack!

Congratulations on your lovely baby - and good for you in terms of thinking of all the things he can achieve rather than limiting his possibilities.

Smile sweetly, bite your tongue until Wednesday and then don't let them come back for a good while until you've calmed down. :)

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Thumbwitch · 14/09/2011 05:49

Sorry, didn't mean that last bit to sound as though you needed to calm down! - I meant more - wait until you no longer feel the need to tell her to fuck off whenever you see her before you let her return. Sorry.

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RingEir · 14/09/2011 05:49

PS Thanks for the link Sqweegie. I am Irish myself so will watch out for this.

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oldwomaninashoe · 14/09/2011 08:02

Lets face it you are being the grown up here by not reacting to her thoughtless comments, and you are doing the right and sensible thing in just letting them go!

She sounds a bit like my late MIL, who told me that DS1 was a "bastard" becuase DH and I were not married in a church, I recognised that she had grown up in another time in rural Ireland, and used to pointedly ignore her tasteless comments, which were frequently racist too.

Congratulations on the birth of you son!