After 6 months of no contact hes still in my head 24/7 - please help me wash my brain

[Tricoteuse]

We were only together a year but it was the most amazing time - I was hopelessly in love and didn't want it to end. There was no future for us - we could never have really got it together as he was significantly younger than me - it would never have worked. We led totally different lives - him being 20 something and me being 40 something with children. Didn't stop me being obsessed with him and I still am. I just want him out of my head. I hate it that he takes up so much mental energy and that I am still in the position where I congratulate myself on a minor victory if I go more than 10 minutes without wondering what hes doing or if he misses me. I believe he loved me but it would have got messier and messier as I got older and he wanted to live his life and I kind of pushed him away - he chased me for a long time saying none of it mattered and we would find a way but bit by bit I kind of talked him into it and then in the end he ended it not me. I just dont want to think about him or his bloody beautiful skin any longer. I'm so miserable.

[MangoMonster]

It just fades with time and distraction.

[FabbyChic]

You need someone to fill the void, to help you get over him emotionally even if you just see someone for the sake of it, someone to make you feel better, to ease the pain.

[SingOut]

at shineon.

Just as an aside, Colette didn't write the Cheri books while locked in a room - her husband 'encouraged' her to write some books about her schooldays and add some saucy details, then he flogged the first book and when it did well he made her write more, all of which he published under his name.

She eventually left him (hurrah!) and went on to write many more books under her own name, and 'reclaiming' the Claudine series as her own.
Errm, random tangent over. I also think you need to stop thinking about his skin. The nicest skin I've ever known has been on people in their 40's and 50's... S'all relative, innit?

[Animation]

"as I say I want to wash my brain"

It's like that song from South Pacific -

"I want to wash that man right out of my hair

and send him on his way..."

I think it can take a good 18 months at least.

[TheOriginalFAB]

I have to disagree with Shiney's 4th point.

Good luck with moving on.

[Tricoteuse]

thank you ladies - this has made me laugh. Its really made a difference to me. I'll get there :)