New relationship - waiting for sex?

[charlottesmum5]

In a nutshell (will expand later) I have met a nice guy, been seeing each other 3 weeks (5 times in total, including staying overnight)..however he seems to have no desire to ravish me or even look at my body and dropped a bombshell (well, I managed to extract the info out of him) that he has an STI which he is receiving treatment for (takes 3 months) and will not be able to have intercourse (even with condoms) for at least this amount of time and perhaps a couple of months after. At the time I said that's ok with me but what has bothered me even more is the fact that he doesn't even want to touch me or look at me sexually. I asked him why and he said he is shy (ffs he's 50). I'm thinking maybe it's because he doesn't want to get turned on because he knows he can't have sex, but I'm thinking it's a bit unreasonable to ask a new date to wait 5/6 months for any intimacy?? I probably sound like I'm a horny nymph lol, but tbh I'm a bit pissed off that he was on a dating site making himself available for a relationship (thats how we met) yet the only reason I know about his STI was because I dragged it out of him after he told me to keep my pants on in bed LMAO!! Am I being unfair??

Actually I think genital warts and herpes are different things, but for freezing treatments it's warts! God if I was him I would of waited until I had the all clear before dating people I mean what's three months eww I already dislike him and I've never meet him!!

Yea milk and wine you are right, I really should get my brain in gear before letting my fingers loose on the key pad

Well at least you've heard of them Susie! I have a vision of the OPs fella at the clinic going "Genital warts? what are they and how did I catch them? also what are these condoms you speak of, aren't they made from pigs bladders still?"

Genital warts which is the virus linked with cervical cancer and more recently throat cancer. HPV virus. His attitude stinks.

Press eject now!

My GOD OP please do it now! NOW!

Get rid and please work on changing your mindset so you don't ever again find yourself in a position where you need to be told that a twat like this is bad news!

And I would get hedge trimmer back, he is not going to fix it (would you trust him to do it right), he is not going to give you the money. Find an electrican if you have to.

and what RedOnion said

Thanks ladies xxx

you look so lovely (took a sneaky peek at your profile) - so definitely agree with the others who say get rid.

Must be a better option out there somewhere. I do believe that relationships should not be such hard work especially at the beginning.

Haha I'm sorry but this guy sounds like an absolute knob. Get rid, go have some fun with another fella who a) isn't a prat and b) that wants to see you in your entirety! Life's too short to waste your time with muppets ;)

Good luck!!

Oh God you're gorgeous. And he sounds bloody awful.

What on earth were this man's good points to make you carry on dating him for 3 weeks? An STI and premature ejaculation? He must be exceptionally rich/handsome/funny/clever for you to question whether or not you are being unfair.

I would also be worried that he didn't want to use a condom when having sex with you for 2 minutes or so with his 1" cock if you ever actually got to that point. Dump the idiot. I would say that email is ok. What a first class plonker!

Ha ha Rinder.....none of the above...think I felt sorry for him pmsl!!!!

Warts are reoccuring as well. When they are frozen the wart as manifestation goes away but the virus stays in the body. Freezing is not a cure, just treatment. Very contagious.

If he's having freezing treatment then it's HPV/genital warts. Condoms offer some, but not total protection against this.

The strains of HPV which cause genital warts are not the ones that give you cervical/oral cancer. Most people will clear the virus from their system within a year. Some go on to be asymptomatic carriers, while an unlucky few develop warts. By the age of 50, over 80% of the population will carry, or have been infected with HPV.

The types associated with cancer are generally asymptomatic, and will take months or even years to be detected by PAP tests.

God, this thread has put me right off my lunch.

Get rid, honestly, I have no hesitation in saying that. He sounds repulsive. I'd be disinfecting anything he's touched.

God, everyone on MN ALWAYS says 'leave the bastard.'

You should consider yourself very lucky. Warts and premature ejaculation. How many girls would kill for a man with those? I bet if you're really lucky he'd hit you in 6 months time too. I'm actually jealous.

A catch doesn't come along like this very often, don't let him go!

so says worzels wife.

Me again...I haven't managed to dump him today - sadly my cat died this afternoon (he was 15) and I'm too upset to make the call/text/email :(

I'm really sorry to hear about your cat, that is very sad news.
Forget about Mr riddled for now, he isn't even relevant. Look after yourself and take time to grieve your loss.

Sending you big hugs.

if my marriage ever ends I swear one thing in front of MN

I will never do internet dating

never

if this is the only calibre of twat you can pick up, I would do better wanking tramps off down the park

seriously

oh ffs, do it for your cat

Sorry to hear about your cat...but having this twat in your life doesn't make things any better, so he might as well go too.

AnyF I met my DP through online dating, and dated several others before I met him, and they were considerably more appealing than the tramps in the park!

this bloke has considerably less appeal than wanking off a tramp

Some lovely tramps down my way lol (just dumped internet twat)