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What would you do if you knew you were just "easy option" for your DP

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MellonCollie · 30/08/2011 15:55

Just curious. Imagine the scenario where you know deep down that your DP is only with you because it's easier to stay with you than it is to spend time alone looking for someone better. You're an easier option than going through all the dating and searching again. You're an easy option when it comes to company as without you, your DP has none and so he relies on you for his social life including cinema, drinks, live music and days out. You're a guaranteed supply of sex.
You also know deep down that if someone "better" did present themselves to your DP, he wouldn't think twice. You also know that if you were to finish with him today, he would be registered on every dating site going by tonight.

You know all this, at least you think you do. You have no proof - just that odd, random niggle that comes into your head every now and again. The niggle that appears when said partner rarely contacts you for a few days after a weekend or the niggle that pops up when you remember he came back to you after the girl at work turned him down.

You have no other problems and on the surface, everything is great. But that niggle just won't go away.

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solidgoldbrass · 31/08/2011 18:36

The thing is, it soudns like both of you are treating the other person as 'better than being single'. Except he knows that you are more desperate not to be single than he is, so you will put more of an effort into pleasing him so he doesn't leave, whereas he thinks that all he has to do is threaten to leave to have you scurrying madly round servicing him.
DOn't do it to yourself, dump him and move on.

WreckaJones · 31/08/2011 18:49

Nah. Move on Mellon. You don't just have niggling doubts. He is behaving this way. Get on with your life. All this work, studying etc (a) you'll be really busy: and (b) it's a new stage in life where you will meet people (not necessarily love interests but just people to socialise with).

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