I'm posting this here for two reasons: one, people seem to know a bit about how these people work and how to deal with them and two, I don't want to get into any kind of debate as to this man's intentions. He scared me this morning.
On and off at work, a man I do not know follows me about, waits until no-one is looking, sidles up to me and starts giving my unwanted, over the top compliments. It started about two years ago, then went quiet for a long time - I had almost forgotten about it. However, he reappeared this week, once with his usual trick. Then I was doing overtime early this morning and caught him following me, but managed to head him off by stopping and starting. The worst bit is that just as I was leaving, he was in the car park, and saw my car. He has never been this "intensive" before.
My usual response to him IS quite robust - I tell him to go away in the same voice I use on my dogs. It normally takes a couple of attempts to shake him off. I have informed my boss at work, who is supportive, but as he never witnesses the incidents, and doesn't know who the stalker is, there isn't much he can do. We have been to the security department together, and the story is the same. Two of the three people we have spoken to have agreed that it isn't on, but because I can't identify the stalker, they cannot deal with him. The third, frustratingly, had some idea of who I meant, but did not take the complaint seriously. This is a very big workplace with many employees working for different companies and gov agencies - most of us don't know each other.
What should I do? We have police presence at this workplace, and I think the time has come to involve them. I think he may be doing this to other women, and I'm worried he is now able to follow me home. TIA.