Vibrator.... is your DH/DP ok with you using them?

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My DH and I have a good sex life.

I know he looks at porn occasionally, and I have no problem with it but peeves me that it could be an opportunity when we could have sex instead!

So.... I thought I would follow the advise of certain mumsnetters re. the rampant rabbit and I am going to purchase.

I have never used a vibrator before, and I was wondering if there are mumnetters out there who are in happy marriages with pretty good sex lives, who use vibrators....How did you broach the subject with your partners and what was their response.

Please please please do not make this about how sickening my husband is for looking at porn and how weak and pathetic I am to stay with him. I understand some mumsnetters have very stroing opinions about porn. I do not. I am curious about vibrators in strong relationships!

Thanks

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HH - it's such a personal issue though, what's hugely sexy to you might be a complete turn off or not particularly enjoyable to the next bloke

Mal - yes, absolutely, and without a basis of confidence in each other and mutual trust it could turn in to a problem. Like sex generally :)

I can imagine if a man wasn't confident about himself then he could have a problem with it, but men aren't usually too uptight about sex (though not everyone likes talking about it of course, which comes back to the trust/confidence thing).

Totally agree with the previous posts, like many things in life people have different preferencs and for something like this he should be able to fel comfortable with what is going on - communication is the key. Personnally my DH is very comfortable with me having one, we have bought then together and he has even bought me one, when one broke, though to be honest I'm not sure about his taste! I sometime use it alone when he is away, nice bath, good glass of wine, children in bed and some quality time alone if you know what I mean. Mostly though we use it together either before or during sex, I prefer external stimulation rather than thrusting and have never really got on with a rabbit. The only time I like a thrusting action is whilst I'm giving him a BJ and I can time the thrusts of both together oh, can't beleive I wrote that, please tell me I'm not the only one. Not sure about the porn though.