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what can i do about his drinking? PLEASE HELP

55 replies

aanons · 08/08/2011 11:05

DH has always had an addictive personality and enjoyed a drink. A few years ago he was falsely accused of something. It took 2 years (due to police incompetancy) to clear his name but in that time he began to drink heavily (hiding half bottles of vodka around the hous and drinking during the days). I eventually managed to get him to go and get some help from the gp. He cut back but didn't stop.
2 years on we have a DS and DC2 is on the way but DH drinking has started to creep up again. He could quite happily drink 12 units of alcohol a night. He has a job now and doesn't drink during the day but does drink every night.
I lost it with him the other night and threatened to leave. He said he knows he is drinking too much but says that we can sort it together (ie he doesn't need to go get help)
He has sgreed to cut back (2/3 cans a night) but I'm not sure if this is enough. Will it just keep creeping up again. I have offereed to go t total with him as I'm not bothereed about drink at all and am obviously not drinking at the moment anyway. but he seems to just want to 'get it undre control' as apposed to stopping. He would not go to aa. I have mentioned hypnotherepy which he's not 100% against.
What can I do? Will cutting back help? His argument is that he's not drinking during the day so he's not an alcoholic.
Help please.

OP posts:
didyouseewhatshedid · 08/08/2011 22:29

No, Zookeeper. You are the stupid one for not recognising that just because your ex was drink dependent does not give you crystal clear insight into the partner of the OP. Your view on this is completely biased, your advice totally subjective and, as such, useless.
Oh, and btw, what is calling somebody stupid if it isnt agressive?

zookeeper · 08/08/2011 22:41

hmmm didyousee I don't get why you are so offended by people discussing their own experiences; and passing on what helped them in similar situations;whether the OP chooses to listen to it is of course up to her.

Aren't you doing the same talking about your alcohol free weeks, which, interestingly, you describe as "hell?"

AnotherMumOnHere · 08/08/2011 22:48

I know which posts/posters I would be taking heed of ........ and it certainly wouldnt be yours DYSWSD.

And stop hijacking the thread for your own purposes.

Apocalypto · 09/08/2011 09:44

@ ImperialBlether

I don't think the average woman weighs 7.5 - 8.5 stone!

Maybe not, but then a unit of alcohol is supposedly a 120ml glass of 8% alcohol wine!

Put another way, a shot glass of Special Brew!

ImperialBlether · 09/08/2011 15:00

8% wine! Isn't that squash?

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