My affair.

[jellymoon]

Been married for many years to a great man who is a fantastic father. DH does not seem to like sex anymore and we have no physical contact whatsoever. I, on the other hand, love to have sex, walk hand in hand and be able to snuggle up on the sofa with a loving arm around me. After all, I'm only in my 30's !
So, to cut a long story short, I found a man who was in the same situation as me. Sex, cuddles and fun times. Nothing more, nothing less.
Is this wrong? Are we meant to be sexless for the rest of our lives just because our partners aren't keen?

exactly, rolling

sometimes it is not necessary to ask for permission when you have a whacking great bruise on your forehead from banging it against the brick wall for years.

That's a very good way of putting it Amelia :)

"DH does not seem to like sex anymore"

• it doesn't sound like there's been very much talking to me. Not a "sit down, we HAVE to discuss this" type of conversation that this situation desperately needed before OP went down the affair route. Probably because OP was too wrapped up in the supremely selfish but terribly exciting prospect of having the affair to do the right thing.

But this whole discussion is irrelevant as OP has vanished.

But this whole discussion is irrelevant as OP has vanished

Deadline looming back at Cosmo :)

Interesting moral issue nonetheless.

No it's not Cosmo, it's wall to wall sex there :o

No it's not Cosmo, it's wall to wall sex there

Must be The Lady then : o

I think the reason so many ops disappear is because the "advice" becomes a rather personal slanging match.

anyway, if you are still around, op, may i ask you a different and totally non-judgemental question??? how do you go to bed with someone you are fond of and share all that intimacy, good sex etc and not end up falling for them in some way? don't you long to be with him, wonder what he's doing etc etc. do you have iron emotional self-disipline??

This is the only thread jellymoon has posted on.

I suspect that JM was a troll looking for info to pad out a feature they were writing or researching.

If not, then she has been frightened off byt the lack of support, bar a few posters.

There will ways be folk who read the advice though. It's not wasted.

I know, baguettecut, but it's still irritating when people just plunder MN for people's time, attention, support and help.